Hedonism (n.): The pursuit of pleasure—vilified under systems that fear the body, shamed by cultures that mistake aliveness for sin, but in truth, a biological imperative rooted in nature’s design.
Hedonism is only immoral under the assumption of patriarchy & capitalism.
In nature, it’s order.
In somatics, it’s regulation.
In this work, it’s your
Compass.You know your body was never meant to feel this far away.
If you’re here you’re being called back into your body,
to reclaim your pleasure,
maybe even to dismantle the very systems that taught you to distance yourself from your body in the first place.
You’re in the right place if you’re navigating:
Pain during sex or internal exams
Vaginismus or pelvic floor tension
Numbness, shutdown, or disconnection during intimacy
Low or absent desire—especially when nothing “fixes” it
Erectile dysfunction or performance anxiety
Trouble orgasming (or never having one at all)
Feeling touched out or dissociated during sex
Avoidance of intimacy after trauma or birth
Shame around your genitals, arousal, or pleasure
Feeling like you missed the memo on how to feel sexy or sexual
A deep longing to feel more, but not knowing where to begin
This is where you don’t have to fake your pleasure or brace through pain.
Where “low desire” isn’t something to fix—but a signal that your body is tired of being ignored.
Where you stop wondering if you’re broken, and start realizing you’ve just been disconnected.
Where wanting more—more closeness, more sensation, more turn-on—isn’t shameful.
It’s human. It’s natural.
It’s hedonism—not the kind sold to you by patriarchy or porn,
but the kind that’s rooted in your biology,
guided by your body,
and finally, finally safe to follow.
Something in you is reaching—
through the numbness,
through the sterilized sex,
through the pelvic pain,
the lack of a sex drive,
the constant misattunement with your partner, or your body.
But, the truth is, your body remembers something the world taught you to forget:
🌱 That sex should feel like soil.
💨 That intimacy should feel like breathing.
✨ That pleasure isn’t extra—it’s your blueprint.
You’re not broken.
You’re just a sensitive 𓁹, cyclical 💫, magical 🔮 being in a world that taught you to shut down.
Your body is nature—and it’s time we started treating it that way.
I’m Nicole, Certified Sexological Bodyworker® with a soft spot for moss🌿, a neurodivergent brain🌈♾️, and creator of the Body Compass Method™—because your body isn’t a machine, it’s a green thing that needs tending. 🌴🌿🍃🌱
Work With Me:
Deep Body Sanctum1 to 1: Sexological Bodywork®
Deep Body Sanctum is a 1:1 Coaching & Bodywork, Hands-in-the-Soil Immersion
Only a few spots per season.
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Practice With Me:
PodcastThe Nature of Pleasure Meditationson Insight TimerSelf RitualImmersive courses to awaken your pleasure, heal shame, and honor your body’s rhythm.
client love:
Nicole is a very kind, nonjudgmental, and unique practitioner. Unique in that - you know her heart is in it fully. She truly cares about her clients, and as a practitioner myself (albeit in a different, but connected field), the level of her expertise and the depth of her commitment is rare.
While I thought I would come to Nicole and learn about how to make myself orgasm, or like sex I didn’t want, I came to realize through the program that I was missing the point completely. The point of all of this, at least for me, was to learn to actually feel into my body, to ask for what I wanted, and *most importantly* to learn how to listen to my body. You’d be surprised, especially if you are a female, how much shame is attached to not only asking for what you want, but to listening to yourself about what you want. Asking for what you want, for what you need, gives you the keys back to yourself and is the true gateway to pleasure. It’s hard to learn those skills though in a regular relationship, with rules, expectations, and, let’s be honest, baggage.
The secret to great sex and pleasure isn’t so much technique as it is being your best advocate. This program teaches you to be that.
This journey has led me down a path I didn’t expect; and now that I see it I can’t turn back. And that isn’t an ominous change, it is a welcome one; for the first time in my life I feel more connected to myself. There were many unexpected tears, hidden revelations, and times of immense growth. To find someone nurturing to help you with such sensitive material is a gift.
Nicole was that gift for me.
--Marissa K.
Stop managing your partner’s growth, get out of the Erotic Teacher Trap, and finally feel met in the cosmically co-creative partnership of your dreams˚✭ * ✦
Reset Your Erotic Rhythm is a three part ritual for the seasoned erotic explorer and an invitation to their partner.
You’re not in constant crisis.
But something inside you knows the slow drip is killing the connection.
Yeah, you still have sex sometimes… but it’s on autopilot. Either it’s “for you” so you can feel like you’ve connected, or “for him” so he’s satisfied — but almost never that electric, melt-into-each-other, can’t-stop-touching-you kind of sex.
You’ve tried bringing it up. You already know how it’s going to go:
You say something, he shuts down, you drop it, then boom — you’re back here again. Same fight, different night.
And in your head you’re screaming, We’ve talked about this a million times.
But if you’re honest… you’ve never gotten to the real conversation. You’ve danced around it. You’ve kept it safe. And now the space between you is starting to feel permanent.
Because what you really want isn’t just “less awkward sex” — it’s a partner who’s right there with you.
Because you know you’re not here to manage him into loving you better — you’re here to be met, matched, and lit up. That’s exactly what Reset Your Rhythm is built for.
This is where you reset your own erotic rhythm so that it is an undeniable, ungovernable erotic beat that anyone could co-create a beautiful symphony with. And the best part? You get to actually enjoy that creation instead of it feeling like you are dragging dead weight behind you to even get him to take a step.
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