🌵🌸💧The Desert Bloom: How Your Body Stores Pleasure (Even When You Can’t Feel It)"
In this episode, we’re leaning into the whimsical and wondrous. If you love natural metaphors and poetic reframes for your embodied experience — this one’s for you.
✨ What we explore:
Why it’s literally impossible for your body to “forget” pleasure
How your body is wired for thriving, growth, and nourishment
The metaphor of the desert bloom — and what it can teach you about the seasons of your own pleasure
Why numbness, disconnection, or a long “dry spell” don’t mean you’re broken
How to stop blaming your body and start asking: what conditions do I need for my pleasure to bloom?
🌵 We’ll journey to the Atacama Desert, where seeds lie dormant for years — and then suddenly, after one good rain, an entire landscape comes to life in brilliant color.
Your body is the same. Your pleasure isn’t gone — it’s waiting.
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Uninspired or “not wired” for pleasure
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Curious about how to cultivate the conditions for your own “super bloom”
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Transcript:
We are leaning into the whimsical today. I've got another natural, organic somatic metaphor for you to help you understand what it may feel like living in that body of yours. If storytelling and nature metaphors are not for you, you might wanna skip to the next episode. So today we are gonna talk about the desert bloom, how your body stores pleasure, even when you can't feel it.
If you've ever felt like your body just isn't wired for pleasure, no matter what you try, you can't seem to feel turned on excited, connected to sensation inspired, you're not feeling that pull of curiosity. You gotta hear this. Your body has not forgotten pleasure. It's literally not possible. It's just waiting for the right conditions to bloom.
Our bodies are, we're literally constructed for pleasure. Pleasure is our biological imperative as living beings. Pleasure is the sensation that we experience as we go towards that which nourishes us. And our bodies and our whole systems are wired for thriving. They're wired for growth. They're wired to live, and we need nourishment to live.
And so when we go towards them, those are the sensations that we experience. We experience pleasure. It's literally our biological imperative. So back to the desert. In some of the driest harshest deserts on earth, there are seeds buried deep in the sand seeds that have been waiting sometimes for years, for just one thing rain.
And when the rains finally come, the entire desert explodes into color. Flowers bloom overnight, blanketing the land in wild, breathtaking beauty. Just imagine all that color. Scientists call this a super bloom, a rare awe inspiring transformation that was there all along, just waiting for the right conditions.
And your body is the same way. Your pleasure hasn't disappeared, it hasn't dried up. It's just waiting. Just like those seeds for the conditions that will let it flourish. Today we're gonna talk about how your body stores pleasure, even when you can't feel it, and how you can create the conditions for your own super bloom.
Let's travel to the Aama Desert in Chile, one of the driest places on Earth For most of the year. It's nothing but cracked Earth, dry sand, and endless stretches of empty land. If you stood there, you'd never guess that anything was alive beneath the surface. But every few years, something incredible happens.
A storm rolls in, heavy rains soak into the ground, and suddenly overnight the desert is transformed. Flowers burst from the earth in every direction, and colors so vivid, they almost don't look real yellow, violet, deep red, millions of flowers stretching as far as the eye can see. I don't know about y'all, but the flowers that, grow in the desert are some of the most beautiful I've ever seen. this is that super bloom, a once in a decade phenomenon where the seeds that have been buried for years finally get what they need to come alive. They were never gone. Just waiting. If you've ever felt numb, disconnected, or like pleasure is something that happens for other people, but not for you.
I want you to imagine. And I want you to know deeply in your bones that those seeds are buried in the desert just like you. Your body remembers how to feel.
I want you to imagine that the seeds of your pleasure are just buried deep and waiting. Your body remembers how to feel. Your nervous system knows pleasure and orients towards pleasure constantly. It's just waiting for the right conditions to bloom.
Fundamentally, this episode is really about putting on a different set of glasses as you investigate what is going on with your body. Our typical response to any kind of. Symptom or numbness in our body is to blame the body
and to feel at war with the body like the body has wronged us. And I want you to start experimenting with this truth that your body does not make mistakes and its intentions are always for you to grow and thrive. If we think about how we understand, how plants move and how plants grow. Let's say there's a tree that suddenly starts growing sideways.
Maybe it's avoiding like a grate that's there or like a metal fence or something. But let's say from our vantage point, we can't see that fence, so we don't know what it's avoiding. We just see a tree growing normally upwards and then a sudden like sharp turn to the left. Our response is never, Ugh, there's something wrong with that tree.
Why would it do that? What a bad decision that it's made. It's broken. We don't have those responses to organic things. We can take this same understanding and. Also assumption of right intent to our own bodies as well.
When our bodies are experiencing numbness or lack of a sex drive, we can start, instead of getting angry at the body, we can start asking the question instead. Oh, huh. What does my body need right now? What's the wisdom that it's showing me? And how can I create the conditions in my life for my pleasure to bloom?
Because I can assure you that even if you are in a dry spell, that has lasted years. Your body is not broken. It's not dead. It's just waiting for the right conditions. And just like the desert after the rain, it only takes the smallest shift for your body to start waking up because you are oriented towards pleasure, organically.
You don't even have to do anything for that orientation to exist in your body. Pleasure is always going to be your true north, your north star, the place that you are always trying to go. Towards, even if it's in subconscious and indirect ways, your body wants to feel good. Your body wants you to enjoy your life.
Your body wants and needs as a biological need, needs pleasure. And that's an important point because sometimes it can feel like. An insurmountable task to getting to the place where you can feel pleasure again, just like it might look like that desert is dead and there is nothing waiting underneath the sand, but I promise you, because of your organic nature, pleasure.
Is just waiting for a rain. It's just waiting for you to slow down, for you to have a little more intention as you're touching your body for you to ask for what you really need from your partner or your job or your home. It's just waiting for those right conditions. So just rest in that fact. And the more you.
Truly believe it in your bones. The more you know it deeply in your bones, the easier it's going to be, figuring out exactly what you do need for that pleasure to fully bloom.
