Reset Your
rhythm
Stop managing him. Start being met.
EroticAn 8-week live online group program that
gives her the space to drop the mother role,
gives him the skills to finally show up, and
gives you both the partnership
you’ve always deserved.
You love him, but you feel like you’re dragging a corpse of a relationship across the finish line.
You’re sick of explaining obvious skills like emotional attunement & presence. Sick of coaching him how to touch you. Sick of waiting for him to grow.
You keep waiting for the moment he’ll evolve/mature/participate, but it never comes (or at least it hasn’t yet, and you’re starting to lose hope).
The truth is…. You wanted a partner, but somehow you got a son.
And now you’re staring down the terrifying thought:
If something doesn’t change soon, I’ll spend the best years of my erotic life starving next to a man who doesn’t even know I’m hungry.
the problem isn’t your relationship & No, the only solution isn’t divorce.
It’s not just you. You’ve been shoved into an impossible bind…
He was never taught. You were taught to do too much. And now you’re both paying the price.
Women are told to never settle for anything less than the perfect, unicorn man,
…and men are told to numb out, stay stoic, never need help — and then blamed when they can’t meet you emotionally.
This cultural matrix makes real partnership impossible — the kind where he actually carries his share, you stop managing everything, and desire has a chance to breathe again.
Reset your erotic rhythm is here to end the rigged game…
He finally gets the initiation no one gave him — the skills to repair, to connect, to actually meet you.
You finally get the reset you’ve been starving for — dropping the manager role so you can feel like his partner, not his parent.
Brings you back to wanting each other again — in the partnership you thought you were getting when you said yes.
the self help industry preys on this fcked up unequal division of emotional labor in hetero relationships…
🔎 A survey of the U.S. self-help market (Marketdata Enterprises, 2022) revealed that over 70% of all self-help and relationship improvement products are purchased by women—but the content itself overwhelmingly assumes heteronormative, couple-centric contexts, where the buyer is implicitly tasked with relaying insights to their male partner.
In other words, this isn’t just about your partner “not getting it.”
It’s that the entire self-help ecosystem was built on the assumption—
that you would manage their attunement too—while quietly starving your own fulfillment.
RYER is where that stops.
It is the reset button to nourish you out of the teacher/mother role and drag him into equal footing with you.
RYER does the teaching for you and gives you the space to actually enjoy your relationship again.
It is the path into the intimacy, passion, and partnership you’ve always been starving for but never known how to reach.
🌿 Reset Your Erotic Rhythm is where the over-functioning finally stops. The eroticism begins. And the relational wounds you’ve been holding for generations finally heal.
You’ve done the work.
It’s time to let yourself be met.
I know what it’s like to feel like you are starving in your relationship…
We’d just had sex in a beautiful apartment in Barcelona…
we could hear the clink of mugs being delivered at cute coffee shop tables.
Everything should have felt dreamy.
But instead of floating in oxytocin,
I felt a wave of dread wash over me.
Not just in my mind—but in my body. My yoni.
I stared in the mirror,
trying to piece together what was happening.
I wasn’t mad.
I wasn’t ungrateful.
I was just starving.
My sexual self had been living off scraps.
Crumbs.
She needed a full meal.
She had been buried under the weight of trying to teach my partner how to be my lover and my equal, to teach him the relational and intimacy skills that no one had, and to become the man that would (someday) finally light my fire.
When my partner came into the room, I let it rip.
I said all the things I’d been holding back.
I cried.
I raged.
I begged without meaning to.
And when I finished, exhausted and curled on the bathroom floor, he said:
“This is really important to you.”
Yes.
“And I’m not getting it.”
No.
I was so confused why we were not getting closer. I had been putting in so much effort.
And then I remembered what I tell my clients all the time:
I cannot be both teacher and lover.
Not even I (and I teach intimacy skills PROFESSIONALLY) could overstep that sacred line between teacher and partner.
That’s exactly why I created RYER:
as a love letter to both my past and future self,
and as a roadmap for the brilliant women I work with every day—
devotees of love who refuse to give up, even in a culture that keeps trying to convince them men will never be capable of meeting them the way they deserve.
You’ve done the work.
It’s time to let yourself be met.
See what Previous Participants have to say…
“When I started the course, my partner and I were having the best sex of my life BY FAR. It was a new relationship. As of week four we are now also communicating with each other with more clarity and nuance than I thought we would ever attain and are connecting at a level that I had only ever dreamed of.“
“You are speaking directly to me! I am tired of carrying the resentment around, do I actually speak out those truths? Wow, resonates so much!”
“Your flyer worked! He’s a yes! I’m amazed!”
“I’ve noticed lots of open communication, more frequent communication, and just having a great time together!”
“I am walking away with how valuable this work is. I did the step one with myself and freakin' LOVED IT! I honor myself.”
“I could be the first woman in my lineage to love from truth!!”
“I’ve been over explaining myself and I’m learning that what I want my partner to be like is not crazy, that what I want is real and I’m not alone!”
“This course is fundamentally about the art of relationships. We were never taught this stuff! So needed!”
“I actually did notice more softness, more openness between the two of us and more willing openness to communicating!”
“We didn’t even feel the need to finish the course because our relationship had completely transformed by week 5!”
the kind of partnership you’ve always wanted...
I know what your longing for and it isn't:
Endlessly sending them somatic sex ed//sacred self-help books HOPING they read that one part and actually learns how to touch you again
Begging for presence during sex when you know they don’t even know what that means
Flinching when they comes in for a hug because all of their touch feels like taking (and not in the good, ravish me, kind of way)
You're longing…
to learn from your partner.
For their growth to inspire yours.
To be able to not just relax during sex but feel like you're being transported to another realm.
To stop doing all of the emotional and erotic labor yourself.
You want your soul to be lit on fire with every touch.
This isn’t just about better sex.
It’s about resetting the rhythm so you actually want each other again — because you finally feel like partners,
not parent and child
not coach and teammate
not manager and managee (you get the idea 😉)
but lover and lover.
Imagine this…
You wake up feeling yourself.
Not bracing. Not tiptoeing around a partner’s fragility.
Just grounded, juicy, steady in your own rhythm.
You stretch—slowly—because your nervous system isn’t in flight mode anymore.
You remember last night’s touch: delicious, mutual, unforced.
You didn’t perform. You didn’t explain.
You just opened.
Because he finally knew how to meet you. And that’s what makes you want him again.
RYER is The Handbook of Love & Eroticism We Should Have Inherited all along
This is the handbook your lineage couldn’t pass down—because they never had the chance to create intimacy like this. RYER gives him the Human & Erotic 101 he was denied, gives you the unwinding you’ve been starving for, and gives both of you the reset into a kind of intimacy no generation before us has ever known.
✨ three courses in one:
Portal 1: For Her — The Unwinding
Lay down the weight of over-functioning. Unlock the buried part of you that is sensual, magnetic, playful, alive.Portal 2: For Him — Relational & Erotic Human Skills 101
Finally, he learns the skills of presence, repair, and erotic attunement—without you as his syllabus.Portal 3: For Both of You — The Ritual Reset
A repeatable practice that clears static, re-centers your bond, and keeps attraction alive for the long haul.
Click here for the complete syllabus — every juicy detail of what you’ll learn, practice, and embody. Keep scrolling for a quick summary!
Portal 1: for her - The Unwinding
If you’ve ever felt more like his mother, therapist, or teacher than his lover, you’re not imagining it. You’ve been carrying the emotional weight of the relationship — initiating every repair, managing the connection, holding the map.
The problem is, no one taught you how not to do this. So your body built a reflex: to over-function.
RYER begins by unwinding that reflex, in your nervous system and in your daily patterns. You’ll finally feel what it’s like to lay down the weight — and with it, unlock the part of you that feels sensual, magnetic, playful, alive.
✨ Because desire isn’t dead. It’s buried under the labor you were never meant to carry. ✨
Portal 2: For him— real Skills, Real Wins
No lectures. No gold stars. Just the manual you never got so you can stop guessing and actually enjoy being with her again.
You get to be the guy who knows what to do next—without walking on eggshells.
Less guesswork, more yes. Clear signals so you can lead with confidence.
Faster bounce-backs. Fights don’t hijack the week.
Real enthusiasm from her. Not duty—desire you can trust.
A simple rhythm you run. Connection isn’t a mystery anymore.
Bottom line: You’ll feel more wanted, more certain, and more in control of the things that actually make sex great—for you.
Portal 3: For Both of You — The Ritual Reset
Even when you both learn the skills, life creeps in. Stress. Work. Old habits. And slowly, the old patterns sneak back.
That’s why RYER doesn’t just give you tools — it gives you a ritual reset you return to again and again. A repeatable practice that clears the static, re-centers the bond, and reopens the door to attraction.
It’s not another “sit down and talk” exercise. It’s a body-based, connection-deepening rhythm you share. A safety net for the relationship.
✨ Because the real secret isn’t fixing everything once. It’s knowing how to nourish your relationship, again and again, for the rest of your lives.
Take a little peak inside his Human School 101 Erotic Curriculum:
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I’ll show him that “more” isn’t criticism — it’s the key to turning good sex into the kind that leaves you glowing for days.
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He’ll understand that foreplay isn’t a warm-up — it’s the main event, and how to make every touch count.
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He’ll learn how to give you closeness without pressure, so your desire comes back naturally.
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I’ll take the pressure off both of you by teaching him what really matters when bodies don’t follow the script.
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He’ll finally “speak” the turn-ons, touches, and rhythms that make you feel completely seen and desired.
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I’ll reframe masculinity for him so it actually turns you on instead of shutting you down.
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He’ll finally know how to reconnect after a fight so you feel safe letting him back in — emotionally and physically.
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I got you, girl.💞
Click here for the complete syllabus — every juicy detail of what you’ll both learn, practice, and embody.
Schedule & Structure
Start date: Monday 6:30pm, February 23rd, 2026 (U.S. Central Time).
Length: 8 weeks.
Time commitment: 7 minutes daily (at-home micro-practice) + one 90-minute live call weekly.
Weeks 5–8 also include an optional 90-minute practice room mid-week.
Live Call Schedule (CT):
Weeks 1–5 (Individual Tracks):
Mondays 6:30 pm – Women’s Track
Wednesdays 6:30 pm – Partner Track (the other half of the couple)Weeks 6–8 (Couples Track):
Mondays 6:30 pm – Couples Session
Wednesdays 6:30 pm – Optional guided practice spaceStart Date: February 23, 2026
What to expect: clear step-by-step practices, private individual guidance early on, then reunite as a couple with skills that make intimacy feel doable (and repeatable). Bring your partner, your curiosity, and 7 minutes a day.
What you get (program at a glance)
Live coaching for 8 weeks (two 75–90 min call per week) with replays.
Short at-home practices (2×/week, ~10–15 min each; total 20–30 min/week).
Partner-friendly structure: simple signals (“more / less / different,” Time-Outs), no performance pressure.
Safety that makes heat possible: consent cues, opt-out signals, clear referral ladder.
Lifetime access to the recorded RYER audio transmission + pdfs
Your daily rhythm (the core of the program)
7-minute audios delivered Monday–Friday, starting February 23, 2026.
Each audio includes one micro practice (doable the same day).
Listen solo or together—no perfection required.
Expect nervous-system downshifts, touch cues, and clear “more/less/different” language you can use immediately.
Live sessions (Central Time)
We meet for 8 weeks. Weeks 1–5 are separate tracks; Weeks 6–8 are as a couple.
Weeks 1–5 — Individual tracks
Mondays @ 6:30 PM CT — Women’s call
Feb 23, Mar 2, Mar 9, Mar 16
Wednesdays @ 6:30 PM CT — Men’s call (your partner’s slot)
Feb 25, Mar 4, Mar 11, Mar 18
Weeks 6–8 — Couples + optional practice space
Mondays @ 6:30 PM CT — Couples call
Mar 23, Mar 30, Apr 6, Apr 13
Wednesdays @ 6:30 PM CT — Optional practice space (lightly guided, drop-in)
Mar 25, Apr 1, Apr 8
Can’t make one? Replays are provided inside the portal within 24 hours.
See What’s Inside:This is the precise map that transforms your relationship into the one your body dreamed of long before you had the language for it.
Be Lovers Again.This course does the teaching for you & creates a space for you to finally unwind.
Here’s What You Receive When You Join:
15 live calls with Nicole — real-time support, embodied teaching, and space held with expert precision.
Daily audio lessons — 7–25 minute guided practices delivered every day for 4 weeks (40 total lessons / 10+ hours of recorded content) to rewire your erotic rhythm from the inside out.
The Ritual Reset Practice — a detailed, repeatable, guided reset ritual you can return to for years, designed to bring your system back into clarity, connection, and presence.
Community connection — a private space with others devoted to the same healing and reclamation you’re stepping into.
The full Couples Reset — step-by-step guided processes (Steps 0–4) to transform tension, deepen safety, and re-establish erotic partnership with clarity.
Guided somatic exercises, touch practices & scripts — including the 3-Minute Game, Erotic Body Mapping, and co-regulation tools you can use for the rest of your relationship.
Replays of every call — yours for the lifetime of the course.
The RYER Resource Library — worksheets, PDFs, scripts, and ritual guides to support integration long after the program ends.
$1768
Hey! I’m Nicole.
And I created this course because I kept hearing the same thing from women who had already done “the work”:
“I know my body.
I’ve reclaimed my desire.
I’ve told my partner what I want.
And I’m still not being met.”
Sound familiar?
I work at the intersection of sexological bodywork, nervous system healing, and somatic intimacy coaching. My whole approach is about coming back into relationship with your body—not as something to fix, perform, or optimize… but as something wise. Relational. Erotic. Alive.
But here's the thing no one tells you:
Even when you do the work, your relationship doesn’t always magically catch up.
That’s where this course comes in.
Reset Your Erotic Rhythm was born from the women I’ve worked with who felt exhausted—not because they didn’t want sex, but because they were doing all the emotional and erotic labor to make it happen.
They were stuck in what I call the Erotic Teacher Trap:
Always initiating the conversation.
Softening their truths so they wouldn’t hurt anyone’s ego.
Trying to guide their partner through intimacy while also trying to feel pleasure.
It doesn’t work.
And it shouldn’t have to.
This course is the handoff.
It says the things you’ve been trying to explain.
It helps your partner see what you’ve been holding.
And it invites both of you into a new rhythm—one built on reciprocity, capacity, and truth.
You don’t need another script.
You don’t need to fix your libido.
You don’t need to abandon yourself to stay connected.
You just need a new starting point.
I made this for you.
Because you deserve to be met.