Healing Sexual shame

For the ones who’ve hidden, silenced, or reshaped parts of themselves just to feel okay.

Reclaim your right to feel, to want, and to belong in your body.

You may not even call it “shame” yet. You just know that something about intimacy—talking about it, having it, wanting it—feels… off.

Reclaim your right to feel, to want, and to belong in your body.

Sexual shame can live deep in the tissues—tightened breath, clenched muscles, averted eyes, a body that braces before touch. It doesn’t always come from one moment. Sometimes it’s slow-dripped into our nervous system by cultural norms, medical trauma, bad sex ed, partners who didn’t know how to ask, or caregivers who never said the word “genitals” out loud.

You may not even call it “shame” yet. You just know that something about intimacy—talking about it, having it, wanting it—feels… off.

This page is for you if:

  • You avoid sexual conversations—even with yourself.

  • You’ve felt like your body isn’t “normal” or “sexy” enough.

  • You’ve had procedures like labiaplasty and now feel regret or numbness.

  • You’ve experienced trauma that makes sex feel confusing or inaccessible.

  • You shut down, dissociate, or leave your body during intimacy.

  • You want more pleasure… but something keeps you from asking, exploring, receiving.

A Somatic Path Back to You

In my work as a Certified Sexological Bodyworker and Somatic Intimacy Coach, we don’t treat your body like a problem to be fixed. We treat it like a conversation waiting to be had—a conversation in which every freeze, every flinch, every numb spot has something sacred to say.

You don’t need to be “over” your past to begin. We meet your body where it is, without judgment, and with exquisite care.

Through guided somatic practices, gentle body awareness, and education around your erotic anatomy, we begin to unwind the inherited stories of shame—rewriting them not just in your mind, but in your breath, your movement, your choices, your pleasure

To learn more about my sexological bodywork services, click here.

Pleasure is Not Frivolous—It’s Foundational

Sexual shame isn’t just about sex. It affects your sense of worth, your self-trust, your ability to receive love and ask for what you need. It teaches you to live from the neck up and abandon your body’s truth.

Healing that shame is not indulgent. It’s revolutionary.

We begin gently. You don’t need the right words. You don’t need to know what you want. You don’t need to perform anything. All you need is a body and a willingness to be in conversation with it, slowly, lovingly, over time.

This work can support you with:

  • Rebuilding trust with your body after trauma, surgery, or long-term disconnection

  • Understanding and exploring your genital anatomy in a shame-free, sacred way

  • Processing regret around past choices, including aesthetic surgeries

  • Naming and feeling your desires—at your own pace

  • Unlearning cultural and familial narratives that keep you silent or shut down

  • Practicing consent, expression, and receiving in a somatic, supported environment

  • Creating a new relationship to pleasure—one that’s truly yours

You are not broken. You are not too much. You are not behind.

You are a body that deserves to feel.
A heart that deserves safety.
A spirit that deserves joy.

And yes—this healing is possible.


To find out more about Sexological Bodywork, visit our FAQ.

What to Expect with Pleasure Coaching & Bodywork

Sexological bodywork is, in its essence, a direct conversation between practitioner and the body of the client.

My unique approach to Somatic Sex Education includes guidance, coaching, and practices in areas like:

  • Low libido

  • Mismatched desire

  • Numbness in the body or genitals

  • Avoidance of intimacy, sensation, sex

  • Painful sex

  • Unfulfilled fantasies

  • Lack of desire

  • Body shame

  • Inability to communicate with partner

  • Prolapse/incontinence/structural difficulties

  • Not knowing what your desires sexually are

  • Desire discrepancy

  • Not knowing how to talk about sex or refer to your genitals directly

  • Desire to enjoy sex more

  • Body shame

  • Fear of sex

  • Habitual and boring sex

  • Routine intimacy that leaves you feeling unfulfilled and not honored

  • Painful sex

  • Inability to orgasm

  • Lack of erectile choice/ erectile dysfunction

  • Unfulfilled desires

You can talk about sex all you want, but it is not until you see what the body has to say that you will actually know what is between you and your perfect, most burgeoning, and beautiful eroticism.

To learn more about sexological bodywork, visit our FAQ.

Picture a life where your body is no longer something to hide, where your desires feel safe to voice, and where intimacy is rooted in trust, connection, and deep, embodied belonging.

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I'm Nicole,

Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Doula, Postpartum Healer, Trauma-Informed Professional

As a CSB, doula, and postpartum healer with focused training in trauma-informed and client-led bodywork, it is my driving mission to help you find comfort in your body, attunement with your desires, and the confidence within yourself to progress on your journey of self-growth. I wholly believe that your body–your pleasure, your love, and your acceptance–is your inherent compass to leading a full, vital, and fulfilling life. It is my passion and my privilege to walk with you every step of the way toward a better understanding and a clearer alignment of that compass.

  • Working with Nicole was life changing. Before meeting her, I had never heard about sexological bodywork and therefore couldn't quite predict how our sessions would shift my relationship to my sexuality, but even more importantly, to my body as a whole. It was fascinating to watch how session by session, I became more embodied and playful in my interactions with my sensual self.

    Anna

  • It goes without saying, that the work you do in a sexbod session may fall a bit outside of your zone of familiarity or your comfort zone but Nicole guides you through it so smoothly that despite the unfamiliar terrain, you remain at ease as you expand into what your sexuality can look like. Couldn't thank Nicole enough and I highly recommend her as a guide.

    Former sexological bodywork client

  • With her focused, caring presence, Nicole helped me to discover a far wider range of sexual pleasure than I previously knew existed. Her expert guidance allowed me to listen to what my body really wanted, instead of just replaying the tapes of what I have always done. Because of my sessions with Nicole, sex with my partner and - yes, sex with myself- is deeper, more fulfilling, and more open than ever before.

    M

  • I really appreciate Nicole’s guidance and intuition at every step. She always comes from a place of curiosity and guides every session based on what’s happening that day. She guided me through my journey from a place of safety and security, never rushing or pushing. Nicole is a truly magical human! She was bon to help people in this way.

    Olivia

  • I’ve learned how to truly feel into my body, which has guided my intuition into countless situation. I've learned what my resource is, and I’ve learned that my life as it was set up was more than my nervous system could handle. These have all given me a sense of calm.

    Former sexological bodywork client

  • This work is life-changing and I wish every woman could experience it.

    Former sexological bodywork client