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Motheringmen
The 10 day life-changing relationship reset for women who can do it all except let it go
This 10 day relationship Reset is for:
❤️ High EQ queens who can talk circles around their partners
❤️ Women who could literally write an entire novel on the inner mechanisms of what’s wrong in their relationship
❤️ Over-functioning goddesses who know that the only way to get their desire back is to heal the fcked up relational dynamics that were handed down to them by generations past (hello generational trauma)
Let’s be honest… you know your frustration & resentment isn’t totally his fault.
You are here because you KNOW you are over-functioning in your relationship,
because your resentment is building because you are so much fcking smarter than him.
You can talk circles around him in every single fight, no matter what corner of your relationship it is in.
You are dreaming of a self-actualized, self possessed man
who knows what he wants,
can attune to you in a way that actually gets you wet,
and inspires your growth for once.
Trust me. I get it.
And, you know what? You’re right. There is a skills gap between the two of you
He was never taught basic relational skills, how to understand his feelings, basically how to be human.
But that doesn’t mean that your jedi-relational skills need to create the bridge between his capabilities and yours.
What you need is to finally stop mothering men,
a survival technique that your mother handed down to you,
who was handed it by your grandmother and so forth (thanks patriarchy).
It’s time to finally give up the mother role in your relationship so you can FINALLY be met, for the first time ever, by a lover that can hold all of you.
And I’m not talking about some dream fireman that swoops in to save the day.
The guy you’re lusting for is already waiting for you in your bed every night.
All you need to do exit the teacher trap that generations of women have been carrying on their backs, get out of his way, and finally receive for the first time in your life.
And our brilliance is backed by science too…
“Across studies, women beat men at reading feelings—about 80% of experiments show a female edge in emotion recognition.” PLOS AND “Women don’t just read emotions better—they read them faster, especially when the cues are subtle.” Frontiers
The world trained your brilliance into unpaid labor; this Reset hands it back and turns it into turn-on.
In 10 days, you will:
Hand back one domain where you are over-functioning & killing your desire end-to-end (no secret supervision)
Install a 15-minute weekly repair rhythm that replaces nagging, over-processing, and not investing your time yourself
Use a body-level “don’t rescue” tool so you stop stepping in
Swap compliance sex for desire-led pacing with one simple Pause/Pivot line
Feel a real shift from bracing → ease, and from duty → want
Start to unwind the thousands of years of generational patterns that have blocked you from a truly co-creative partnership
What’s inside (short & sweet):
This reset is short and sweet to protect your bandwidth and your desire, delivering only the shifts that hand back the load, steady your nervous system, and make attraction possible again.
10 short audio lessons delivered to your inbox every day
Six one-page tools:
Hand-Back the Mental Load Planner — Finally hand off a whole task end-to-end (with “done” defined) so you’re not reminding, checking, or fixing it later.
Boundary & Receiving Scripts — Say no without sounding cold, and then let his effort land so he actually does it again.
Gap-Tolerance Micro-Tool — When your body wants to jump in, use this 60-second reset to stay calm and not rescue.
Repair Rhythm Card — Run a simple 15-minute weekly check-in that replaces nagging with clear tweaks and appreciation.
Pause & Pivot Card — Stop compliance sex on the spot and smoothly shift the pace or touch to what you actually want.
Backslide If/Then — When old patterns pop up, follow the prewritten next step so you don’t slide back into managing.
***Bonus***
pdf conversation guide: How to talk about not wanting sex without apology, shutdown, or a fight
Transcripts for accessibility
Why this works We can’t “fix men,” (they aren’t broken), but we can redesign the system you’re both caught in—roles, rhythms, and rules—so the mother/teacher dynamic has nowhere to live. I work nervous system–first because if your body can’t tolerate the gap—those 30 seconds where you’d normally rescue—nothing changes; I’ll give you the exact downshift that steadies you in the moment. Then we restore ownership, because real agency (not perfection or gold stars) is what makes adult partnership—and actual heat—possible again. This is trauma-aware, evidence-informed practice, not pop advice: hand back the load, anchor a repair rhythm, and watch attraction return when you’re no longer supervising it.
FAQ
Do I have to coach him?
No. You’ll use scripts and tiny experiments that change the system without mothering. And, more importantly, this is actual internal work in YOU, not relational work for him.What if he’s “behind” emotionally?
We work with that reality — ownership and repair don’t require mind-reading or perfect EQ.What if we backslide?
You’ll have two If/Then cards to catch it fast, a repeatable protocol that will keep you moving in the right direction.How much time does this take each day?
About 10–12 minutes: a short audio + one tiny experiment. No journaling marathons.Do I need him to participate?
No. You’ll change the system from your side with boundaries, hand-backs, and pacing—no coaching required.Do I need any materials?
Just your inbox. You’ll get one-page tools (planner, scripts, cards) you can print or save to your phone.What if we’re in couples/sex therapy already?
Great. This complements therapy with concrete micro-practices you can bring into sessions.Is this anti-man?
No. We change roles and rhythms, not personalities. It’s systemic, not shaming.This is not for everyone.
If you’re in an unsafe or coercive situation, skip this program and use the resource links inside. This is education, not therapy.