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Effortless Intimacy & Somatic Empowerment
Pleasure Coaching with Nicole Siegel Sexological Bodyworker, Doula, Postpartum Healer, Trauma-Informed Professional
Move past blocks to pleasure and into juicy & fulfilling intimacy
Our minds are incredibly powerful tools, but can often create obstacles that we rationally cannot overcome. The good news is: the body always has a way through.
Pleasure Coaching is a way to approach seemingly insurmountable challenges to pleasure, sensation, and intimacy in a new and effective way.
As a Certified Sexological Bodyworker (or a Somatic Sex Educator), my approach differs from traditional sex therapy in that, instead of talking about your body’s responses in sex, we work directly with your embodied patterns in present time.
Just like learning to play a new instrument or sport, theory and conversation about how to play will only take you so far. In Somatic Sex Education, we create exercises that actually give you opportunity to practice the skills you want to curate in sex. You get the chance to actually play the instrument in a container that is guided by a professional with extensive knowledge of the arousal network, nervous system, trauma informed counseling, and somatic education.
If you have trouble expressing your desires in sex, we co-create practices that feel comfortable, safe, and expansive where you can actually ask for what you want.
If you are having sex that is unsatisfying, habitual, or boring, we co-create opportunities for your body to feel curiosity for pleasure again.
If sex feels painful and you don’t know why, we work directly with the tissues, and educate you to your beautiful erotic anatomy so that you are empowered to create the sex life that you’ve always wanted.
If you are healing from a surgery or readjusting to your new body & sexuality post-procedure, we create a loving space for you to be witnessed in everything that you are, in the body that you are in.
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You can talk about sex all you want, but it is not until you see what the body has to say that you will actually know what is between you and your perfect, most burgeoning, and beautiful eroticism.
Do you keep coming up against the same old problems?
It is in awareness of the body that we are able to find new solutions to the same old problems:
Low libido
Mismatched desire
Numbness
Avoidance of intimacy, sensation, sex
Painful sex
Unfulfilled fantasies
Lack of desire
Body shame
Inability to communicate with partners
Prolapse/incontinence/structural difficulties
Sexological bodywork is, in its essence, a direct conversation between practitioner and the body of the client.
When we curate entire experiences that follow the whims and waves of the body, it creates the opportunity for us to trust our pleasure, and, subsequently, to find more and more of it. Allowing the body to unfold and be the director of the show, gives the opportunity to unwind old patterns of:
Body shame
Fear of sex
Habitual and boring sex
Routine intimacy that leaves you feeling unfulfilled and not honored
Painful sex
Inability to orgasm
Lack of erectile choice
Unfulfilled desires
What your sex will look like after this program. Oh the places you'll gO...
When the body is acknowledged, honored, and nourished, we can then move into new patterns of behavior. You can create an intimate life filled with:
Self-body love
Body confidence
Attunement with partner(s)
Easeful communication with partner(s)
Satisfying sex
Orgasmic/ejaculatory choice
Novel sex
Confidence in our desires & boundaries
A few examples: painful sex and erectile choice
Let’s talk painful sex.
Questions that a CSB (certified sexological bodyworker) may ask…. What are the sensations of that pain? Do you know your erotic anatomy enough to be able to pinpoint exactly where it begins and ends? Which muscles, exactly, are tensing up in response to penetration? What is the color of those sensations, the shape, texture, speed of them? And what is your body asking you to change so that it can open up? Can you follow the call of your pleasure? Where does it take you?
In Somatic Sex Education we will actually create an opportunity to unwind the tissue causing the pain in real time, and allow you to find a positive restorative experience. Instead of taking the traditional approach recommended by many health providers of forcing the vaginal entrance open with dilators or using numbing creams (blocking access to the very sensations we so badly long for), we ask the body what it needs to feel safe enough to open. When the tissue contracts we wait, sit, and witness and we watch as the body show us the next step we need to take for you to heal.
Let’s talk erectile choice (or lack thereof). Or “erectile dysfunction”
Questions a CSB may ask you: How safe do you feel in the room right now? What else are you noticing in your body? Are you feeling an opening, tightening, clenching, temperature change? How connected are you to the pleasure in the rest of your body right now? What sensations are you actually feeling in your erogenous zones?
Somatic Sex Education is a unique modality that combines nervous system education, trauma informed practice, and extensive knowledge of the arousal network to give you the tools to find your most satisfying sex life. As such, we take a very different approach than do most sex professionals when it comes to erectile choice.
Erection, arousal, and engorgement are all directly correlated to how safe the body feels in the room you are in, the person you are sharing space with, and the experience you have curated together. If we don’t feel safe, the body won’t send the valuable resource of our blood to our pleasure centers, and you won’t get the engorgement you are wishing for. This is the genius of the nervous system. Understanding this beautifully complex system allows you to play the instrument of your body in the intensely pleasurable ways it was meant to be played. In a session you will learn how to recognize the language of the nervous system and we will give you tools to craft the experience you truly want.
Meet Your Coach
Nicole Siegel
Nicole is a certified sexological bodyworker, doula, postpartum healer, and a trauma informed professional. Nicole helps her clients find comfort in their body, attunement with and clarity in their desires, and confidence in their decisions and boundaries.
She incorporates trauma-informed and client-led bodywork in her 1 on 1 sessions to help her clients to find pleasure and empowerment in their relationship to their body, sexuality, self, and, ultimately, vitality in life, love, relationships, and work.
Her group classes are informed by Generative Somatics, Somatic Sex Education, Pleasure Activism, the Magic and Wonder of Birth, and being a lifelong devotee to her body and pleasure.
