🎙️The Politics of Pretty (7 Radical Pillars That Will Change How You Feel About Your Body—Forever)
Let’s be real:
most beauty advice is a trap wrapped in a compliment.
You’re told to love your body—but not too much.
You’re told to age gracefully—but please, don’t look like you’re aging.
You’re told to be sexy—but only in a way that sells.
It’s time to call bullshit.
In this episode, we’re tearing up the old rulebook and writing a new one. I’m sharing 7 radical pillars that reimagine beauty as something you define, something that feels good, and something that doesn’t require you to suffer, shrink, or disappear.
This isn’t a “self-love” pep talk.
It’s a pleasure-drenched, pro-woman, pro-sex redefinition of beauty—rooted in power, art, embodiment, and the sacred experience of being alive in a female body.
🌹 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why the beauty myth isn’t just shallow—it’s systemic social control
The connection between patriarchy, capitalism, and your body shame
Why women across generations still feel haunted by their thighs
What happens when beauty becomes an experience, not a performance
Why admiring another woman can be a revolutionary act
How a pleasure-based approach to beauty changes everything
The 7 new pillars of beauty that celebrate your curves, your rage, your softness, your power
đź’„ The 7 Radical Pillars of Beauty We Explore:
Beauty is Non-Hierarchical – No ladders, no competition, no scarcity
Beauty is Self-Defined – You don’t need to be chosen to feel radiant
Beauty is Pleasure-Based – If it hurts, it’s not beautiful
Beauty is Fluid – Your body is a river, not a statue
Beauty is Intergenerational – Age is power, not a problem
Beauty Connects Us – Your radiance doesn’t threaten me—it nourishes me
Beauty Honors Your Body’s Needs – Rest, hunger, adornment, rage, softness—all included
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Full Transcript Here:
   Let's be honest. Most conversations about beauty feel like a trap. And yes, I am totally about to channel America Ferrera in Barbie, in the Barbie movie. In this next little segment, either you're being shamed for caring about how you look, or you're being shamed for not caring enough. You're supposed to love your body as she is, but also contour her into an illusion.
You're supposed to age gracefully, but also please, for the love of God, don't look like you're aging. You're supposed to feel sexy, but only in a way that's palatable. Not too much, not too loud, just hot enough to be marketable and through it all, you're supposed to act like none of this affects you. Well, I'm calling bullshit.
Because I've worked with women who run empires, lead communities, raise children, start movements, and still, still feel quietly haunted by their thighs, by their wrinkles, by that deep gnawing question. Am I allowed to feel good in this body? So today I wanna offer you a different lens, not just to love yourself, pep talk, not a reclamation of hot girl summer, but a whole new definition of beauty.
One that's not based on market value, male approval, or your ability to suffer in silence. This is a pro woman, pro sex, pro, pro definition, pro pleasure, definition of beauty. It doesn't ask you to shrink. It doesn't ask you to suffer. It asks you to live fully sensually defiantly because beauty as it's currently defined, has become a tool of social control as we'll Define it today, but beauty as we'll define it today is a birthright, a portal practice.
So here's what we're getting into. Why the cultural, why the current beauty myth isn't just annoying, it's political. How pleasure is the missing ingredient in most body image con conversations. What happens when women stop competing and start delighting in each other and the many, many pillars of a beauty paradigm that make space for all of you, your cycles, your curves, your power, your rage, your eroticism, your art, your changing, your aging, your aliveness.
By the end of this episode, I hope you'll start to feel what it's like to live in a body that isn't an image to perfect, but a world to explore. So get cozy, grab your tea, take off your bra if you haven't already, let's burn down the beauty myth and bring something better into its place. So let's begin. I am going to be talking about the nine pillars of a.
Pro woman, pro-sex, pro pleasure, definition of beauty. And the very first one I wanna talk about is that beauty is non-hierarchical. There's no ladder to climb, there's no ideal, no raking, no caste system. The current beauty myth turns women into adversaries. It divides us, pits us against each other and says, only one of you can win.
But a pro-woman definition of beauty says that. We all rise. There's abundance in this definition of beauty, and we are not still art to be judged. We are living art to be felt. We're not in or out of beauty. We are beauty. We are beauty in all of our shapes and shades and scars and season seasons. Beauty is a lived experience
because remember, we are not objects to observe. We are verbs to be felt. And if you wanna hear more about that, then go to the episode to hear a lot more. The second pillar that I wanna talk about. In this new definition of beauty is that beauty is subjective and self-defined. So what turns you on to life is yours.
Your style, your send to your expression. These are sovereign choices. It's not one universal standard. It's thousands of personal dialects. It's not found in a rule book. It's found in a feeling. And that means you don't have to wait to be chosen because remember, what we're all really longing for when it comes to beauty is to feel beautiful, not to look a certain way.
It's to have the actual sensations of beauty.
The third pillar is that beauty is pleasure based, and this is probably the most revolutionary idea of all, is that if it hurts, it isn't beautiful. Beauty is not pain.
Sincerely like, fuck that.
It's not about ignoring your hunger, it's. Not about shame.
That's not beauty. That's bondage. If beauty is an experience, then pleasure is your body's way of showing its beauty. Pleasure is your compass, your guide, your medicine, and when we reclaim beauty as pleasure based, we stop sacrificing our experience for an image. We don't. Avoid going to that pool party because we're having a fat day.
We delight in the water as it kisses our skin. When we jump in headfirst, we dress for how something feels against our skin. We dance because a song moves us and we adorn ourselves because we delight in our reflection. And so beauty becomes a sensual art and not a social performance. Fourth pillar is that beauty honors the fluidity of the female form.
Your body is a river, not a statue. She changes, she cycles, she expands and contracts with the moon, with seasons, with grief in every single piece of all of this is demonstrating your aliveness, and it's something to be absolutely celebrated and loved. And so this pro-woman definition of beauty makes room for all phases of the body, the bleeding and the postpartum, and the menopausal and aroused and soft, strong scars.
Sensual, there's no expiration date, no before and after, just one long miraculous unfolding. So pillar number five of this new definition is that beauty is intergenerational. We are not meant to live cut off from our elders, from their stories, their softness, their power, their joy. The beauty myth has made us fear aging, and it is an completely brilliant way to maintain this.
Cycle because if you cut off young women from our elders, then we don't benefit from their experience of living within this ideal and learning that it is completely fake and how to get out of it.
And so this new definition of beauty is. It connects the generations of women. It does not separate us,
and it does not honor youth above all else. If it's an experience than having even more experience would make you even more beautiful. So pleasure. Number six is that. This definition of beauty turns us towards other women.
What if we were flirtatious and chivalrous and gallant towards other women? What if we looked at one another? Also like art, admired, celebrated, adored, a pro defin, a pro woman definition of beauty softens our gaze. It says, I see you. You are radiant. You are beautiful. And your beauty doesn't threaten me, it nourishes me, and it maybe even gives me pleasure.
Pillar number seven, and the last pillar of today. Is that beauty is rooted in the body's needs. So because beauty is a living, breathing relationship with your body, it's about honoring your body in what it's asking for. Rush rest, nourishment, adornment, boundaries, softness, celebration. It's about letting your body have what she needs without punishment, without waiting for permission, without performance.
It's
because this new definition is based on abundance. We are not working off of scarcity anymore, and so there is no self denial that happens in this definition of beauty. No self negation, none of that. We are not ignoring our body's cues. We are not not eating because we are trying to live up to an ideal.
This definition of beauty is intimately and deeply rooted in your body's needs. And so to have an even richer art piece, we honor our needs more and more and more, and that my dears is what beauty can be when it's rooted in truth and pleasure and power. When it's not handed to us like a prize for good behavior, but reclaim, reclaimed as a birthright, a delicious shape, shifting language spoken through fabric, scent, gaze, and gut.
So we jog. So we just walk through the pillars of a pro woman, pro body, pro pleasure, definition of beauty, a definition that doesn't ask you to shrink, perform, or disappear. But invites you to feel, to play, to adorn, to expand, and maybe you're not ready to throw away every beauty rule you've ever learned, and that's okay.
The only thing I'm asking you is to do this right now. The only thing I'm asking you to do right now is this notice where this version of beauty already lives within you. Notice where beauty feels beautiful without notice where your body feels beautiful without trying. Notice, when you delight in the sparkle of another woman's lipstick, the lusciousness of her thighs and the the scent of her skin, notice that pleasure in your body.
