🎙️The Missing Ingredient in Pelvic Healing (No, It’s Not Breathwork, Kegels, or Another Wand)

In today’s episode, I’m speaking to pelvic PTs, bodyworkers, and the brave souls navigating chronic pelvic pain—and naming what most pelvic healing protocols still leave out: pleasure.

That’s right. Pleasure is the missing ingredient.

You’ve done the stretches.
You’ve done the breathwork.
You’ve bought the jade eggs, the pelvic wands, the fancy internal tools.

And still… the pain returns.
The tightness lingers.
The disconnect stays.

We’ll talk about why the exclusion of pleasure from clinical and therapeutic spaces isn’t just an oversight—it’s a direct reflection of our culture’s discomfort with eroticism, embodiment, and true consent. And we’ll explore what becomes possible—physically, emotionally, erotically—when we finally allow pleasure to be part of the healing conversation.

🧠 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• Why most pelvic PT programs still leave out erotic awareness
  
  

• The cultural fear of pleasure in clinical spaces—and how it hurts patients
  
  

• What a fully functioning pelvis actually includes (hint: it's more than tone and function)
  
  

• How erotic disconnection reinforces chronic symptoms
  
  

• Why treating the pelvis like a machine limits long-term healing
  
  

• A story from a training that cracked this conversation wide open
  
  

• The nervous system magic that happens when pleasure is normalized
  
  

• Why reclaiming the erotic isn’t indulgent—it’s essential
  
  

💋 For the Clients Who’ve Been Left Wanting:

If you’ve done all the right things and still feel disconnected from your pelvis...
If you’re tired of being treated like a diagnosis instead of a whole person...
If you’re craving more than symptom relief—you want to feel alive again...

This episode is your invitation to imagine a world where your pelvis is not a problem to fix, but a powerful source of clarity, strength, and sensuality.

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Let pleasure back in—on your own terms.

Inside this free kit, you’ll get:
💋 Guided somatic rituals to reconnect with your pelvis
💋 Pleasure-based practices designed for safety, nervous system support, and deep embodiment
💋 Journal prompts to release shame and rewire your relationship with your body

👉 Download it here and start experiencing your body as a source—not just a symptom.

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Your pelvis isn’t just for function.
It’s not just for pain relief.
It’s for pleasure.
It’s for power.
It’s for you.

And it’s time to bring that truth back into the room. 🌀💗

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Full Transcript Here:

  Today I am speaking to the pelvic PTs in the back that know something is missing in their profession and they are longing to find just a little more integration in their work. And also all of the people that have tried pelvic PT for various um. Pelvic related challenges and, um, keep experiencing the same symptoms.

Maybe they'll go away for a little bit and then they will come back later. I. So I am gonna start by, um, telling a little story about a training that I went on a few years ago, um, with a prominent, really well-known, really beautiful, um, pelvic PT practitioner that. Um, has broadened her horizons to, um, training body workers and general, and anyone who is interested in, um, healing the postpartum and pregnant pelvis.

And so her training is, I'm not gonna mention her name here because she hasn't given me permission to, um, reference her material, um, and tie her name to this, but, um, her training is. Very, um, it's, it's incredibly holistic and very emotionally aware and really, really unique because she is teaching people, she's teaching pelvic p, she started out with pelvic pt.

She's teaching pelvic PTs how to bring emotional awareness. Um, and attunement into internal and external work on the pelvis. And that is incredibly revolutionary and so appreciative that that, uh, exists in the world. And when I was at her training, there was still this little blind spot. Um, and that blind spot was pleasure.

And I, that's, I understand why that's there. So it.

Please take out the, I understand why that's there. So even though we were working with the complete body and system, we were taking into account energy, you know, whatever that means, but taking into energy and emotions and, um, the pace of the body, like not entering. Um, the pelvis, no penetration until the body really opens up.

There was still a blind spot on pleasure and, and purposefully excluding pleasure from the container of the pelvic pt, which at first glance makes a ton of sense. You know, you want to keep, um, safety in the modality. Um, you want to. Make sure there are clear boundaries. Um, and you, and we are pretty unpracticed when it comes to consent.

And so, um, you wanna be careful about entering the world of eroticism in, um, any kind of healing space, especially a medical one. However, I think. That excluding pleasure, not just from pelvic pt, but also gynecology, um, uh, regular talk therapy and a lot of other healing modalities is incredibly revealing and indicative of our society's.

Shortcomings when it comes to understanding pleasure, eroticism consent, uh, attunement embodiment, because if you think about it, a fully functioning pelvis is one that can easily experience pleasure, which for many, many, many of us, that is not the case. So we do not experience pleasure easily in our pelvises.

And so I'm gonna get back to that story of the training with the pelvic pt. And so the way that this came up specifically is she was teaching us how to enter the, the anal sphincter to do internal work and. One of the things she says was said was that, um, you're looking for how easily, um, open the, the anal sphincter is.

If it's too lax, then some healing might be needed, um, to tighten that up and, and bring tone back to it. Um, and. One of the things I said in the class, yeah, I kind of raised my hand and even though it felt like I was talking to a celebrity, I said, um, and also when, when someone's aroused their, their anus will actually open.

It will, it will become more lax and.

So when we in, when we exclude pleasure from the container, we are taking out like a massive chunk of the way that our pelvises and our bodies function. And so, you know, she, she heard this and she started incorporating it into her material, which was lovely because I got to see pleasure starting to weave its little threads into, um, just a little bit into, um, medicine and into traditional western healing.

And so if we were, if we allowed ourselves to imagine a world where. It was comfortable and logical to talk about and also experience pleasure. When we are doing any kind of work in the pelvis, um, the, the healing that we would unlock is pretty remarkable because I see clients all the time that have gone to pelvic PT for years and years and years and maybe get temporary.

Relief from their symptoms, but then the symptoms keep coming back, whether it's tightness or, uh, just generalized pain. And I, you know, make obviously no attempt to, um, diagnose or to heal them, uh, their physiology at all. Um, not, I'm not a pt. I don't work as a pt. What I do is. I strengthen the pathways that where they can, I strengthen the pathways of pleasure in their body so that they can start experiencing pleasure as a resource as they're dealing with all of this pain.

And they start to be able to self facilitate their healing because they haven't, they're, they're coming down from. Complete dissociation in their pelvis. And that's really valuable because if we treat pelvic symptoms like we do back pain or any other chronic pain, and we go and we get a massage to relieve it, for example, with back pain and then this.

Tension comes back. Um, if we treat pelvic symptoms in the same way we are, we will we'll see that repeat of symptoms. And more than that, we're actually blocking ourselves from this, from a potent. Transformative force in our lives because our potential for feeling good is so high in our pelvises because there's so many nerves there.

And not only that, but the what may be behind the symptoms of whatever reason you're going to the pelvic PT may be. Whatever's behind that, the emotional components will get a chance to air out and actually integrate. And so if you, if one of the reasons why you have been experiencing, um, pain in your pelvis for so long, um, is sexual shame, if we start bringing sex into the conversation more.

Even the simple inclusion of it without even trying to, without a goal, orientation of trying to do anything with it, just having it, making it be okay to be in the room is already going to create an opportunity for healing that was not there before.

And so ultimately. What we want is for our clients or patients to have and feel full agency. In their pelvises. And that can only truly happen when there has been space created for the thousands of years of sexual shame that we are all carrying in our bodies about eroticism. Just allowing that to air out and, and, and, and come to light and have space.

And as a client speaking to you now, um.

Remember your guiding light. What you truly want is not just for the pain to go away, it is for you to feel like your pelvis is a source of strength and clarity and resource and pleasure, and so.

As much as you can, bringing awareness of pleasure and, um, desing,

remember that Healing Pelvic symptoms is, is it? Is not just about the physiology, it makes sense that you might need something more. And so, um, I would urge anyone that is experiencing a challenge like this to seek out spaces where sex feels normal and eroticism is celebrated and pleasure is your guide.