Our 100+ page erotic symptom decoder:

✨ DSM-X: Desire & Somatics Mythos 🌿

The DSM-XXX is our 100+ page reference guide for anyone who’s ever been told their sexuality is broken—when in truth, it’s been misunderstood.

Inside, you’ll find symptom-by-symptom breakdowns of the most common erotic “dysfunctions”—like low desire, numbness, shutdown, pain with sex, or craving that feels out of control—decoded through the lens of nervous system logic, body-based wisdom, and the Principles of Pleasure™.

This isn’t just a reframe. It’s a total re-rooting—from shame to sovereignty. From pathology to pattern. From trying to “fix” your body… to finally understanding it.

You won’t find this kind of clarity anywhere else—but these symptoms show up in bedrooms, bodies, and therapy rooms every single day.

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Here are some of the symptoms this guide explores and reinterprets through the lens of

body wisdom

Allergic Reactions to Lube / Condoms (and the Downstream Erotic Impact)

Anxiety before or during sex

Arousal feels overwhelming

Aversion to genitals (your own or a partner’s)

Aversion to Smell / Taste / Texture in Intimate Settings

Burning after penetration

Compulsive porn use

Delayed Arousal (Long Time to Warm Up)

Arousal without desire

Desire for control or power in sex

Difficulty communicating sexual needs

Difficulty orgasming / anorgasmia

Difficulty orgasming with a partner

Disconnection / numbness

Disgust during or after pleasure

Early ejaculation

Emotional Dissociation During Pleasure

Erectile difficulty

Erectile numbness (erection without sensation)

Excessive craving / hypersexuality

Excessive Planning or Control During Sex

Fantasy guilt

Freezing up mid-intimacy

Feeling Gross or Dirty After Sex

Genital hyperawareness

Genital pain without medical cause

Hyper-Focus on Partner’s Pleasure

“Good Girl/Boy” Syndrome in Bed

I avoid sex because of pain

I feel like I’m watching myself during sex

I feel numb during sex

I feel “nothing” when touched

I feel pressure to orgasm quickly

I feel pressure to want sex

I feel too much / not enough

I freeze when my partner wants to talk about desire

I get UTIs or yeast infections after sex

I hate my genitals

I miss the passion we used to have

I need to “push through” to be intimate

I need a lot of space but don’t know how to ask

I can’t get turned on

I can’t orgasm

I can’t stay present during pleasure

I can’t talk about sex with my partner

I can’t talk about sex without shame

I can’t use a tampon

I clench during intimacy

I dissociate after sex

I disassociate during sex

I don’t feel anything in my genitals

I don’t like being touched but don’t know why

I don’t know how to ask for what I want

I don’t know how to be sexual without shame

I don’t know how to say no without guilt

I don’t know what turns me on

I don’t speak up when I’m uncomfortable

I don’t want sex anymore

I fake arousal

I fake orgasms

I feel anxious about “satisfying” my partner

I feel ashamed of my body during sex

I feel broken for not climaxing

I feel like I’m too sensitive, too complicated

I feel sore after intimacy

I feel ashamed for liking what I like

I feel bored but guilty about it

I feel broken because I don’t crave sex

I feel dirty for wanting pleasure

I feel guilt around masturbation

I feel guilty receiving pleasure

I feel like I’m doing sex wrong

I feel too sexual for my culture

I feel touched out but guilty

I freeze during intimacy

I get headaches or nausea during arousal

I get overwhelmed by intimacy

I go along with things to avoid conflict

I laugh or make jokes during intimacy to deflect

Inability to Fantasize

I never learned what pleasure means for me

I never initiate sex