Reset

Your Erotic

Rhythm

Stop managing your partner’s growth, get out of the Erotic Teacher Trap, and finally feel met in the cosmically co-creative partnership of your dreams˚✭ * ✦ ˚ . ⋆

one course, , three portals

  • For Her (so you can finally put down the weight of holding the evolution of his emotional maturity)

  • For Him (so he can finally learn the basic human skills 101 somewhere other than his relationship and you)

  • For Both of You (so you can FINALLY find an erotic rhythm that nourishes both of you, completely)

Curious what’s inside?
Click here for the complete syllabus — every juicy detail of what you’ll learn, practice, and embody.

You’re not in constant crisis.
But something inside you knows the slow drip is killing the connection.

Yeah, you still have sex sometimes… but it’s on autopilot. Either it’s “for you” so you can feel like you’ve connected, or “for him” so he’s satisfied — but almost never that electric, melt-into-each-other, can’t-stop-touching-you kind of sex.

You’ve tried bringing it up. You already know how it’s going to go:

1) You say something, he hears it as you calling him out. He shuts down. Or snaps back.

2) You drop it because you don’t want another weird night. Your desire takes a nosedive. Even a quick hug in the kitchen feels stiff.

3)Then boom — you’re back here again. Same fight, different night.

You’ve said things like:
“I just want to feel closer to you.”
“I wish we were more connected.”

Maybe you’ve even tried giving him feedback in bed… but the second his face changes, you feel the air go weird, and you backpedal fast.

He’s heard “I want more” — but he doesn’t actually know what that means. So he either does more of what’s not working… or avoids touching you in case he “messes it up.”

And in your head you’re screaming, We’ve talked about this a million times.
But if you’re honest… you’ve never gotten to the real conversation. You’ve danced around it. You’ve kept it safe. And now the space between you is starting to feel permanent.

Because what you really want isn’t just “less awkward sex” — it’s a partner who’s right there with you,
matching your emotional depth,
able to meet every bit of your erotic imagination so you can finally go wild with it… no more being the coach, the cheerleader, or the damn mother in your own love life.

Because you know you’re not here to manage him into loving you better — you’re here to be met, matched, and lit up. That’s exactly what Reset Your Rhythm is built for.

If you can feel your erotic body begging for you to…

👉 Stop outsourcing your erotic aliveness, stop playing teacher or fixer, and return to feeling sexy again instead of a babysitter of your partner’s growth.

👉Hand back his growth to him—so you can finally stop carrying what was never yours to hold.

👉 Quit overfunctioning, stop performing, and stop collapsing your desire into caretaking by creating space for you to explore yourself and an opportunity for you to hand off his learning management to me.

Reset Your Erotic Rhythm was made just for you.

This is where you reset your own erotic rhythm so that it is an undeniable, ungovernable erotic beat that anyone could co-create a beatuiful symphony with. And the best part? You get to actually enjoy that creation instead of it feeling like you are dragging dead weight behind you to even get him to take a step.

A few WTF stats for you:

🔎 A survey of the U.S. self-help market (Marketdata Enterprises, 2022) revealed that over 70% of all self-help and relationship improvement products are purchased by women—but the content itself overwhelmingly assumes heteronormative, couple-centric contexts, where the buyer is implicitly tasked with relaying insights to their male partner.

This means that the $13 billion self-help industry thrives on a hidden assumption:
the person who buys the course will also coach their partner. Instead of teaching intimacy as a shared skill,
it quietly sells individual responsibility for a collective problem—
leaving the more relationally literate partner trapped as teacher, manager, and therapist-in-residence.

Its structure quietly expects the buyer (usually the woman) to do double duty:
healing themselves while managing their partner’s growth too.

In other words, this isn’t just about your partner “not getting it.”
It’s that the entire self-help ecosystem was built on the assumption that you would manage their attunement too—while quietly starving your own fulfillment.

🌿 Reset Your Erotic Rhythm is where that stops.
You’ve done the work.
It’s time to let yourself be met.

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one course, three portals.

Look, I know what it’s like to feel ahead of your partner.
To feel that ache… that pull… that “if he could just meet me here everything would finally click” feeling.
But I want you to hear this:
That hunger isn’t a sign that you need to work harder to get him to catch up—it’s a sign that it’s time to come back to yourself.

This isn’t self-help that quietly asks you to manage him while “working on yourself.”
This is where we stop that cycle completely.

Here’s how:

🔹 Portal 1: You

We start with you—completely.
Here’s where we finally ask the real question:
Why are you trying so hard to manage his growth in the first place?
 Even though that urge comes from a beautiful longing (and I know it does, I’ve felt it myself being a sex educator in a relationship with a total normie), there’s often some tender, unresolved part of you that’s projecting onto him and your relationship.

You’ll learn the skill that no one is teaching women right now: how to fully self-source your erotic fulfillment.
Because if you’re waiting for him to catch up so you can feel whole…
you’re still outsourcing your fullness—and that’s exactly why you feel stuck.

If you’re relying on your partner to “catch up” so you can feel met, you’re still outsourcing—and that’s why you feel stifled.

Your true erotic fulfillment has never actually depended on him.
No one else can limit you but you.
And that’s why this portal alone can change everything.

🔹 Portal 2: Him (Optional)

If—and only if—you feel like you could genuinely shrug and say “his journey, not mine” (don’t worry, in portal one I’ll show you EXACTLY how. This is actually an erotic sovereignty skill in itself)…
then you hand him his own path.

No managing. No teaching. No coaching.
This is where he gets what he needs:
anatomy knowledge, tools for self-attunement, self-regulation, self-containment.

This is his “human school” textbook.
You’re done being the teacher.
Because here’s the truth:
He was never going to be able to learn this from you anyway.


🔹 Portal 3: Co-Creation (bonus)

This is where you learn true co-created intimacy—a skill almost none of us were ever taught.

Here, you practice what it means to reveal yourself fully…
To connect soul-to-soul with another human…
Without dissolving your needs or blurring your boundaries.

It’s about discovering what’s unique to the connection between the two of you—something that doesn’t exist anywhere else on this planet.

In this portal, connection isn’t something to perfect or perform.
It’s not about matching frequencies, chasing orgasms, or “getting it right.”

It’s about stepping into a cosmic co-creation lab—where your intimacy becomes a living, breathing experiment in self-discovery and other-discovery.

Together, you open to spaces and possibilities that neither of you could have imagined alone.

i know the kind of partnership you’ve always wanted...

I know what your longing for and it isn't:

  • Endlessly sending them somatic sex ed//sacred self-help books HOPING they read that one part and actually learns how to touch you again

  • Begging for presence during sex when you know they don’t even know what that means

  • Flinching when they comes in for a hug because all of their touch feels like taking (and not in the good, ravish me, kind of way)

You're longing to learn from your partner.
For their growth to inspire yours.
To be able to not just relax during sex but feel like you're being transported to another realm
(and not having to pilot the spaceship yourself).
You want THEM to be sending you interesting podcasts & books that expand YOUR mind.

And you want to firmly exit the Erotic Teacher Trap.
To stop doing all of the emotional and erotic labor yourself.

You want to feel grateful to have them around (not mildly annoyed with subtle resentment growing).

You want to fully melt into a cosmic,
other-worldly erotic connection with your partner
where your two individual fires
are co-creating like no one's ever seen
to create a pleasure frequency that sweeps you both away.

You want your soul to be lit on fire with every touch.

What it does to your partnership

for one person to be

You decoded the lies. You took the red pill.💊

Now your sex life’s a revolution– one built on body truth, 👄 real pleasure, and connection that actually turns you on. You know the real power that lies in our pleasure–  that it can turn the patriarchal and capitalist systems that try to govern our bodies to dust from  from the inside out.  You might even be guiding others these days —  teaching workshops,  coaching clients,  And holding space for their own erotic breakthroughs.

Helping them find their turn-on, trust their bodies, and reclaim their power.

But when behind the scenes, your own relationship feels stuck in a sex script you’ve long since outgrown,

When your partner’s still in the simulation — stuck in the Matrix of Sex: 

  • performative scripts,

  • emotional shutdown, 

  • pressure without presence.

You become the frustrated erotic teacher📋 in your own bed:

💡 Still not having sex that feels nourishing, 🧯 Constantly managing his shame, confusion, or disinterest, 🎓 And stuck teaching intimacy 101 when you’re ready for grad school.

All so you can maybe get the kind of sex your awakened body knows it was built for. And trust me, I get it. 

Becoming your partner’s erotic teacher is almost inevitable when one person evolves faster.

But only one kind of teacher escapes without the slow build of resentment…  and the intimacy blocks it eventually creates.
(Keep reading to find out which one.)

awake:

Reality Check: What Kind of Erotic Teacher Have You Become?

In my work, I see that people fall into one of three types of erotic teacher traps in their partnerships.

They all come from love, hope, and effort… but only one actually leads to turn-on and truth.

You are usually one of these three enlightened beings, trying to spread more enlightenment:

🧿 The (Exhausted) Oracle
 You drop insights like breadcrumbs and hope your partner follows. 
You stay wise, non-directive, and patient 
— but deep down, you’re tired of waiting for them to catch up.

💊 Frustrated Morpheus
 You know what’s possible — 
and it’s driving you wild that they can’t see it. 
You keep crafting the perfect invitation, explaining, teaching, 
trying to sell them on joining your erotic revolution.

🌌 Magnetic Neo
 You’ve stopped trying to convince. 
You’ve restructured your world around your own erotic truth. 
You’re not dragging anyone — 
but you’re wide open to co-creating reality with someone who chooses it too.

Hint: We’re all trying to get to Neo — 

but let’s be honest, most of us start out as Morpheus. 

You know, dropping truth bombs, 
asking deep questions, 
trying to goad our partner into awakening like,
“Take the f*cking red pill already!”

Or maybe right now you’re the Oracle🔮, 

quietly seeing all the potential and “patiently” holding space while secretly dying inside. 
But here’s the thing: 
that gets exhausting.
 You weren’t meant to be someone’s erotic life coach. 💪

But Neo? Neo doesn’t convince. Neo embodies. 

Neo bends reality by choosing himself so fully that the world around him has to respond. ✋🔫

And here's the biggest plot twist: 

You don’t actually need to ⏰ wake him up.

You need to reset your own erotic rhythm — not to match theirs, but to become the 🎼 metronome ♪♪ of your own aliveness.

A steady, embodied pulse that they can sync with, if and when they’re ready. 
That’s how two instruments make music: 
not by one dragging the other, 
but by co-creating a rhythm that turns sex into ⌑~♬♪܀⊹ symphony ✩♬ ₊˚.🎶⋆☾⋆⁺₊✧.

Download my free pdf conversations guide:

3 Hidden Patterns That Kill Intimacy in Relationships
(and How to Shift Them in One Evening)

How the Reset Works

This isn’t a how-to guide for teaching your partner sex.
This is where you stop managing, stop fixing, and stop waiting for them to “get it”—and come home to your own erotic rhythm.

The rhythm your body knew before overfunctioning, caretaking, and compromise took its place.

This is a three-part ritual designed to liberate you first, so you stop outsourcing your aliveness:

🌀 Portal 1: Reset Your Erotic Rhythm

This is where it begins—and maybe where it ends, too, because this alone can remake everything.

You’ll learn the skill no one ever taught you:
how to self-source your erotic fulfillment so completely that your freedom no longer depends on whether or not your partner “catches up.”

You stop performing, explaining, over-functioning—and remember what it means to let your body open on its own timeline, to its own aliveness.

You start nourishing your own soil so that anything that grows with them is a natural byproduct—not a project.

And here’s what you may not have even allowed yourself to dream yet:

When you return to your erotic rhythm, you become a living invitation—magnetizing everyone and everything around you toward a different culture of sex and intimacy:
Non-performative.
Presence-driven.
Pro-woman.
Pro-body.
Anti-capitalist.
Decolonized

Rooted in what we know in our bones to be true but are constantly ushered away from:

That we are divine gifts simply for being here.
That every bit of our expression, sensation, and desire adds to the momentum of a collective evolution that is already underway.

🌱 🌀 Portal 2: Their Reset (Optional—but Powerful)

If—and only if—you feel ready (and I’ll show you exactly how to know when that moment comes)…
you can hand them their own completely separate path.

This is their “human school” textbook.
They’ll get anatomy lessons, tools for self-attunement, self-regulation, and self-containment.

But crucially:

  • You won’t deliver it.

  • You won’t explain it.

  • You won’t guide them through it.

This portal is entirely self-contained, so you can focus on your own evolution—and stop feeling responsible for theirs.

Take a little peak inside his Human School 101 Erotic Curriculum:

  • I’ll show him that “more” isn’t criticism — it’s the key to turning good sex into the kind that leaves you glowing for days.

  • He’ll finally see the mental and emotional weight you’ve been carrying — and start taking it off your shoulders so you can actually want him again.

  • I’ll translate your “more” into actions that light you up instead of leaving you frustrated.

  • He’ll learn why rushing leaves you cold — and what it really takes to get your body all the way there.

  • He’ll understand that foreplay isn’t a warm-up — it’s the main event, and how to make every touch count.

  • I’ll help him read your body and bring your mind back into the moment — without you having to fake it.

  • He’ll finally spot the signs you’re just going through the motions — and know exactly how to get you genuinely turned on again.

  • He’ll learn how to give you closeness without pressure, so your desire comes back naturally.

  • He’ll get why pushing more actually pushes you away — and what to do instead that pulls you closer.

  • I’ll take the pressure off both of you by teaching him what really matters when bodies don’t follow the script.

  • He’ll finally “speak” the turn-ons, touches, and rhythms that make you feel completely seen and desired.

  • I’ll teach him how to read you so well you don’t have to micromanage — you can just enjoy.

  • He’ll learn how to make you feel sexy, wanted, and relaxed even when you’re on your period, bloated, or not loving your reflection.

  • He’ll discover how to lead in bed in a way that feels safe, hot, and deeply tuned to you.

  • I’ll reframe masculinity for him so it actually turns you on instead of shutting you down.

  • He’ll learn to stay present and confident even when you’re giving feedback — so you never feel like you killed the vibe.

  • I’ll teach him to talk about feelings in a way that connects you — without the pressure of a therapy session.

  • He’ll finally know how to reconnect after a fight so you feel safe letting him back in — emotionally and physically.

  • He’ll handle it with curiosity, not defensiveness — so the conversation actually makes sex better.

  • I’ll translate your spiritual or deeper desires into something he can actually create with you in bed.

  • He’ll learn how to talk about sex after sex in a way that feels hot, not humiliating.

  • He’ll learn how to get his emotional needs met in healthy ways — so being with you feels like a turn-on, not a drain.

  • I’ll teach him how to initiate in a way that feels exciting, confident, and irresistible — without you always having to start it.

  • I got you, girl.💞

💫 🌀 Portal 3: Co-Creation (Bonus Playground)

When—and only when—you both feel ready, this portal becomes available as a shared space of discovery.

Portal 3 is a playground where real co-created intimacy can emerge organically.

Here you’ll learn the skill almost no one has ever taught us:
how to reveal yourself fully, soul-to-soul, without dissolving your boundaries or needs in the process.

This is about finding what’s uniquely yours together—something that doesn’t exist anywhere else and entering a cosmic co-creation lab where connection itself becomes mutual discovery—of self and of other.

Does this sound familiar?

  • “He's just not in his masculine enough for me to be in my feminine.”

  • “I’ve done so much work on myself… why does it feel like I'm the only one?”

  • “I don’t want to teach him. I feel like I have a 2nd (3rd, 4th) kid to take care of.”

  • “I’ve tried everything—explaining, books, hinting, even scheduling sex. Nothing’s changing.”

  • “I’m exhausted from carrying the emotional weight of our intimacy. I take care of everything else in my life. I just want the bedroom to be a place I can feel free.”

  • “I don't know how much longer I can do this if something doesn’t shift. I love him but I can't give up this part of myself.”

  • “I know what turns me on now… and I feel lonelier than ever.”

  • “I want to feel desired again.”

  • “He’s not a bad partner. He’s just not on the same level as me—and I don’t know how much longer I can wait.”

  • “I’m not asking for perfect. I’m asking for present.”

  • “I don’t want to become resentful. But I can feel it building.”

  • “I want sex that feeds me, not depletes me.”

If this sounds like you, your erotic intelligence is being wasted trying to dampen your beat to meet theirs.

It’s time to re-connect to your organic rhythm again.

So that you can melt into that cosmic co-created symphony with your partner again (or, maybe, for the very first time).

that sexy co-created beat:

This is the philosophy at the heart of Reset Your Erotic Rhythm.

This is how we get you to
➡️Exit the erotic teacher trap
➡️Stop doing all of the emotional and erotic labor
➡️And to step into the cosmically co-creative partnership of your dreams.

Your bodies move in cycles.
They pulses with aliveness.
And when you stop syncing yourself to someone else’s beat, or trying to drag someone up to yours,
you return to your own tempo — the one that makes your whole erotic system feel… alive again.

And the one that makes it possible to actually enter a space of co-creation again.

This course is about that reset.
Not a reset to fit back into sex as you knew it —
but a reset back into the wild, rhythmic intelligence of your own erotic nature.
So you can create — and share — a sex life worth waking up to.

I know what it’s like to finally find that soul-altering fire—

rooted deep in your pelvis and spreading through everything you touch.

And I know what it’s like to look at your partner and think:
Please. 
Just meet me here. 
Like it's a matter of life or death.

It comes to a breaking point eventually for all of us. Even for me….

We’d just had sex in a beautiful apartment in Barcelona, 
we could hear the sounds of passionate Catalans (my people) playing bocce ball in the park below (and yes they were passionate about bocce ball), 
The clink of mugs being delivered at coffee shops. 

Everything should have felt dreamy. 
But instead of floating in oxytocin,
 I felt a wave of dread wash over me. 
Not just in my mind—but in my body. My yoni.

I stared in the mirror, 
trying to piece together what was happening.
I wasn’t mad. 
I wasn’t ungrateful.
I was just starving.

My sexual self had been living off scraps.
Crumbs.
She needed a full meal. 

She needed to be met, not managed.

To be responded to with presence — not scripts.

To be able to delight in the organic nature of my pleasure.

To feel in rhythm again.

Not just with him.

But with the earth.

With the wild intelligence of my body.

With the deeper reason I was doing all this work in the first place.

When my partner came into the room, I let it rip.
I said all the things I’d been holding back.
I cried. 
I raged. 
I begged without meaning to.
And when I finished, exhausted and curled on the bathroom floor, he said:
“This is really important to you.”
Yes.
“And I’m not getting it.”
No.

And here’s the part that floored me:
I pulled out all the stops—I mean I’m a damn sex educator for god’s sake.
And he really cared and wanted to get there. 
But nothing worked.

And then I remembered what I tell my clients all the time:
I’m not the one to teach him this.
In fact, me being so intimately involved was stunting both of us.

Not even I—who does this professionally—could overstep that sacred line between teacher and partner. 
Who’s made it her life’s work to walk people through their sexual and intimate evolution.

These lessons literally cannot be delivered by me.

Even with all my knowledge, 
all my brilliance (because honestly, I am fucking brilliant at what I do)—
no matter what I said, no matter where I pointed him—
nothing changed.

Because you cannot be both the erotic teacher and the partner.

Not without paying a price your body will eventually refuse.

It wasn't until I took my foot off of his gas pedal, trying to artificially speed up his growth, that his actual organic erotic animal showed up in a way that it never had before. 

And now we live hornily ever after, making music we would never have been able to apart (or if we were only ever dancing … or f*cking… to only my erotic beat).

Which, let me tell you guys, is soo soo juicy. 

🌿 Imagine this instead…

You wake up feeling yourself.
Not bracing. Not tiptoeing around a partner’s fragility.
Just grounded, juicy, steady in your own rhythm.
You stretch—slowly—because your nervous system isn’t in flight mode anymore.
You remember last night’s touch: delicious, mutual, unforced.
Touch that started with breath. With presence.
With him attuned to your pacing without needing a playbook.
You didn’t perform. You didn’t explain.
You just opened.

Because it felt safe to do so.
No more resentful massages.
No more initiating “for connection.”
No more sex that leaves you buzzing with confusion instead of afterglow.
You’re finally building a sex life that doesn’t require
compromise, coaching, or emotional CPR.

Just two bodies, two pulses,
meeting in the middle of a rhythm that you no longer have to drag anyone into.
This isn’t about fixing him.
It’s about resetting you—
so the music you’re making with your body becomes undeniable.
Even to him.
Especially to you.

All registrants will get lifetime access to the recording.

Hey! I’m Nicole.

And I created this course because I kept hearing the same thing from women who had already done “the work”:

“I know my body.
I’ve reclaimed my desire.
I’ve told my partner what I want.
And I’m still not being met.”

Sound familiar?

I work at the intersection of sexological bodywork, nervous system healing, and somatic intimacy coaching. My whole approach is about coming back into relationship with your body—not as something to fix, perform, or optimize… but as something wise. Relational. Erotic. Alive.

But here's the thing no one tells you:
Even when you do the work, your relationship doesn’t always magically catch up.

That’s where this course comes in.

Reset Your Erotic Rhythm was born from the women I’ve worked with who felt exhausted—not because they didn’t want sex, but because they were doing all the emotional and erotic labor to make it happen.

They were stuck in what I call the Erotic Teacher Trap:
Always initiating the conversation.
Softening their truths so they wouldn’t hurt anyone’s ego.
Trying to guide their partner through intimacy while also trying to feel pleasure.

It doesn’t work.
And it shouldn’t have to.

This course is the handoff.


It says the things you’ve been trying to explain.
It helps your partner see what you’ve been holding.
And it invites both of you into a new rhythm—one built on reciprocity, capacity, and truth.

You don’t need another script.
You don’t need to fix your libido.
You don’t need to abandon yourself to stay connected.

You just need a new starting point.

I made this for you.


Because you deserve to be met.