you’ve done the work.
It's time to let yourself be met.
Stop doing all the emotional & erotic labor solo, get out of the Erotic Teacher Trap, and finally step into the cosmically co-creative partnership of your dreams˚✭ * ✦ ˚ . ⋆
Reset Your Erotic Rhythm
An Individual Reclamation & A Couple’s Cosmic Co-creation
A three part ritual for the seasoned erotic explorer and an invitation to their partner.
$768 $44 Pre-Sale – July Only!
Get in while it’s still juicy and in the making—this price won’t last once it’s fully cooked. 🔥
one course, three portals.
Begin with the holy return to yourself.
The rest? Delicious invitations for them to meet you in your radiance.
i know the kind of partnership you’ve always wanted...
I know what your longing for and it isn't:
Endlessly sending them somatic sex ed//sacred self-help books HOPING they read that one part and actually learns how to touch you again
Begging for presence during sex when you know they don’t even know what that means
Flinching when they comes in for a hug because all of their touch feels like taking (and not in the good, ravish me, kind of way)
You're longing to learn from your partner.
For their growth to inspire yours.
To be able to not just relax during sex but feel like you're being transported to another realm
(and not having to pilot the spaceship yourself).
You want THEM to be sending you interesting podcasts & books that expand YOUR mind.
And you want to firmly exit the Erotic Teacher Trap.
To stop doing all of the emotional and erotic labor yourself.
You want to fully melt into a cosmic,
other-worldly erotic connection with your partner
where your two individual fires
are co-creating like no one's ever seen
to create a pleasure frequency that sweeps you both away.
You want your soul to be lit on fire with every touch.
And you want to feel grateful to have them around (not mildly annoyed with subtle resentment growing).
What it does to your partnership
for one person to be
You decoded the lies. You took the red pill.💊
Now your sex life’s a revolution– one built on body truth, 👄 real pleasure, and connection that actually turns you on. You know the real power that lies in our pleasure– that it can turn the patriarchal and capitalist systems that try to govern our bodies to dust from from the inside out. You might even be guiding others these days — teaching workshops, coaching clients, And holding space for their own erotic breakthroughs.
Helping them find their turn-on, trust their bodies, and reclaim their power.
But behind the scenes, your own relationship feels stuck in a sex script you’ve long since outgrown.
Your partner’s still in the simulation — stuck in the Matrix of Sex:
performative scripts,
emotional shutdown,
pressure without presence.
And the worst part?
Now you’re the frustrated erotic teacher📋 in your own bed:
💡 Still not having sex that feels nourishing, 🧯 Constantly managing his shame, confusion, or disinterest, 🎓 And stuck teaching intimacy 101 when you’re ready for grad school.
All so you can maybe get the kind of sex your awakened body knows it was built for. And trust me, I get it.
Becoming your partner’s erotic teacher is almost inevitable when one person evolves faster. But only one kind of teacher escapes without the slow build of resentment… and the intimacy blocks it eventually creates.
(Keep reading to find out which one.)
awake:Reality Check: What Kind of Erotic Teacher Have You Become?
In my work, I see that people fall into one of three types of erotic teacher traps in their partnerships.
They all come from love, hope, and effort… but only one actually leads to turn-on and truth.
You are either…
🧿 The (Exhausted) Oracle
You drop insights like breadcrumbs and hope your partner follows.
You stay wise, non-directive, and patient
— but deep down, you’re tired of waiting for them to catch up.
Or you are….
💊 Frustrated Morpheus
You know what’s possible —
and it’s driving you wild that they can’t see it.
You keep crafting the perfect invitation, explaining, teaching,
trying to sell them on joining your erotic revolution.
OR you find yourself with the superhuman qualities of…
🌌 Magnetic Neo
You’ve stopped trying to convince.
You’ve restructured your world around your own erotic truth.
You’re not dragging anyone —
but you’re wide open to co-creating reality with someone who chooses it too.
Hint: We’re all trying to get to Neo —
but let’s be honest, most of us start out as Morpheus.
You know, dropping truth bombs,
asking deep questions,
trying to goad our partner into awakening like,
“Take the f*cking red pill already!”
Or maybe right now you’re the Oracle🔮,
quietly seeing all the potential and “patiently” holding space while secretly dying inside.
But here’s the thing:
that gets exhausting.
You weren’t meant to be someone’s erotic life coach. 💪
But Neo? Neo doesn’t convince. Neo embodies.
Neo bends reality by choosing himself so fully that the world around him has to respond. ✋🔫
And here's the biggest plot twist:
You don’t actually need to ⏰ wake him up.
You need to reset your own erotic rhythm — not to match theirs, but to become the 🎼 metronome ♪♪.
A steady, embodied pulse that they can sync with, if and when they’re ready.
That’s how two instruments make music:
not by one dragging the other,
but by co-creating a rhythm that turns sex into ⌑~♬♪܀⊹ symphony ✩♬ ₊˚.🎶⋆☾⋆⁺₊✧.
Download my free pdf conversations guide:
3 Hidden Patterns That Kill Intimacy in Relationships
(and How to Shift Them in One Evening)
Does this sound familiar?
“He's just not in his masculine enough for me to be in my feminine.”
“I’ve done so much work on myself… why does it feel like I'm the only one?”
“I don’t want to teach him. I feel like I have a 2nd (3rd, 4th) kid to take care of.”
“I’ve tried everything—explaining, books, hinting, even scheduling sex. Nothing’s changing.”
“I’m exhausted from carrying the emotional weight of our intimacy. I take care of everything else in my life. I just want the bedroom to be a place I can feel free.”
“I don't know how much longer I can do this if something doesn’t shift. I love him but I can't give up this part of myself.”
“I know what turns me on now… and I feel lonelier than ever.”
“I want to feel desired again.”
“He’s not a bad partner. He’s just not on the same level as me—and I don’t know how much longer I can wait.”
“I’m not asking for perfect. I’m asking for present.”
“I don’t want to become resentful. But I can feel it building.”
“I want sex that feeds me, not depletes me.”
If this sounds like you, your erotic intelligence is being wasted trying to dampen your beat to meet theirs.
It’s time to re-connect to your organic rhythm again.
So that you can melt into that cosmic co-created symphony with your partner again (or, maybe, for the very first time).
that sexy co-created beat:
This is the philosophy at the heart of Reset Your Erotic Rhythm.
This is how we get you to
➡️Exit the erotic teacher trap
➡️Stop doing all of the emotional and erotic labor
➡️And to step into the cosmically co-creative partnership of your dreams.
Your bodies move in cycles.
They pulses with aliveness.
And when you stop syncing yourself to someone else’s beat, or trying to drag someone up to yours,
you return to your own tempo — the one that makes your whole erotic system feel… alive again.
And the one that makes it possible to actually enter a space of co-creation again.
This course is about that reset.
Not a reset to fit back into sex as you knew it —
but a reset back into the wild, rhythmic intelligence of your own erotic nature.
So you can create — and share — a sex life worth waking up to.
I know what it’s like to finally find that soul-altering fire—
rooted deep in your pelvis and spreading through everything you touch.
And I know what it’s like to look at your partner and think:
Please.
Just meet me here.
Like it's a matter of life or death.
It comes to a breaking point eventually for all of us.. Even for me.
We’d just had sex in a beautiful apartment in Barcelona,
we could hear the sounds of passionate Catalans (my people) playing bocce ball in the park below (and yes they were passionate about bocce ball),
The clink of mugs being delivered at coffee shops.
Everything should have felt dreamy.
But instead of floating in oxytocin,
I felt a wave of dread wash over me.
Not just in my mind—but in my body. My yoni.
I stared in the mirror,
trying to piece together what was happening.
I wasn’t mad.
I wasn’t ungrateful.
I was just starving.
My sexual self had been living off scraps.
Crumbs.
She needed a full meal.
She needed to be met, not managed.
To be responded to with presence — not scripts.
To be able to delight in the organic nature of my pleasure.
To feel in rhythm again.
Not just with him.
But with the earth.
With the wild intelligence of my body.
With the deeper reason I was doing all this work in the first place.
When my partner came into the room, I let it rip.
I said all the things I’d been holding back.
I cried.
I raged.
I begged without meaning to.
And when I finished, exhausted and curled on the bathroom floor, he said:
“This is really important to you.”
Yes.
“And I’m not getting it.”
No.
And here’s the part that floored me:
I pulled out all the stops—I mean I’m a damn sex educator for god’s sake.
And he really cared and wanted to get there.
But nothing worked.
And then I realized what I tell my clients all the time:
I’m not the one to teach him this.
In fact, me being so intimately involved was stunting both of us.
Not even I could overstep that sacred line between teacher and partner—who does this professionally.
Who’s made it her life’s work to walk people through their sexual and intimate evolution.
These lessons literally cannot be delivered by me.
Even with all my knowledge,
all my brilliance (because honestly, I am fucking brilliant at what I do)—
no matter what I said, no matter where I pointed him—
nothing changed.
Because you cannot be both the erotic teacher and the partner.
Not without paying a price your body will eventually refuse.
It wasn't until I took my foot off of his gas pedal, trying to artificially speed up his growth, that his actual organic erotic animal showed up in a way that it never had before.
And now we live hornily ever after, making music we would never have been able to apart (or if we were only ever dancing … or f*cking… to only my erotic beat).
Which, let me tell you guys, is soo soo juicy.
🌿 Imagine this…
You wake up feeling yourself.
Not bracing. Not tiptoeing around a partner’s fragility.
Just grounded, juicy, steady in your own rhythm.
You stretch—slowly—because your nervous system isn’t in flight mode anymore.
You remember last night’s touch: delicious, mutual, unforced.
Touch that started with breath. With presence.
With him attuned to your pacing without needing a playbook.
You didn’t perform. You didn’t explain.
You just opened.
Because it felt safe to do so.
No more resentful massages.
No more initiating “for connection.”
No more sex that leaves you buzzing with confusion instead of afterglow.
You’re finally building a sex life that doesn’t require
compromise, coaching, or emotional CPR.
Just two bodies, two pulses,
meeting in the middle of a rhythm that you no longer have to drag anyone into.
This isn’t about fixing him.
It’s about resetting you—
so the music you’re making with your body becomes undeniable.
Even to him.
Especially to you.
All registrants will get lifetime access to the recording.
💡how the reset works:
This course is not a how-to guide for teaching your partner sex.
It’s a return to your own erotic rhythm—
the one your body knew before overfunctioning, caretaking, and compromise replaced actual connection.
It is a three step ritual:
Your Reset,
Their Reset (optional),
and Co-created Reconnection (bonus)
🌀 Portal 1: Reset your erotic rhythm
You’ll identify where you’ve over-extended, over-explained, or over-orchestrated your intimacy.
You’ll gently call your energy home.
You’ll reattune to your natural pace—
the pulse that lets your body open when it’s ready,
instead of when someone’s waiting.
This is where your nervous system exhales.
Where your sexual self stops waiting to be “gotten.”
Where you stop managing another person’s growth
and start trusting your own erotic leadership.
🛠️ Shift the dynamic without waiting for them to change
You’ll work with real-life scripts, nervous system patterns, and embodied practices
that don’t require your partner to “get it” first.
Because when you drop the role of erotic teacher,
the entire structure starts to reorganize.
This course gives you tools for:
Exiting the teacher role without abandoning your desire
Setting the beat without becoming the conductor
Inviting connection without carrying the curriculum
Feeling pleasure again, even if they’re not “meeting you there”… yet
And here’s the truth:
In almost every relationship, one person awakens first.
That doesn’t make you the problem.
It makes you the pulse.
🌱 🌀 Portal 2: Optional—but powerful
Their track
This course includes an optional companion experience
designed for partners who want to meet you here—but honestly, don’t know how.
It’s not required. You can take the full journey solo
and experience massive transformation on your own.
(I’ll show you exactly how.)
But if they’re open to stepping into erotic co-creation—
with guidance that doesn’t come from you—
they’ll have their own pathway to reset too.
With content just for them.
Not filtered through you.
Not dependent on you.
And not about pleasing you—
but about becoming erotically sovereign,
so they can meet you on equal ground.
💫 🌀 Portal 3: Bonus Co-Creation track
For both of you
When You’re Ready to Meet Each Other Again
This bonus module is for couples who are ready to explore the reset together.
It’s not required—your transformation doesn’t depend on his participation.
But if they’re willing, this is the space where you both get to step out of the teacher-student dynamic and into real co-creation.
You’ll get powerful communication tools that help you uncover how you got stuck in roles like caretaker, overfunctioner, or “the one who always initiates.”
Together, you’ll explore:
How codependent erotic dynamics get built (even with the best intentions),
What your bodies have been trying to say underneath the misfires,
And how to build a rhythm that’s mutual, embodied, and built for real connection.
This is the bonus track for couples ready to listen to each other in a new key.
Hey! I’m Nicole.
And I created this course because I kept hearing the same thing from women who had already done “the work”:
“I know my body.
I’ve reclaimed my desire.
I’ve told my partner what I want.
And I’m still not being met.”
Sound familiar?
I work at the intersection of sexological bodywork, nervous system healing, and somatic intimacy coaching. My whole approach is about coming back into relationship with your body—not as something to fix, perform, or optimize… but as something wise. Relational. Erotic. Alive.
But here's the thing no one tells you:
Even when you do the work, your relationship doesn’t always magically catch up.
That’s where this course comes in.
Reset Your Erotic Rhythm was born from the women I’ve worked with who felt exhausted—not because they didn’t want sex, but because they were doing all the emotional and erotic labor to make it happen.
They were stuck in what I call the Erotic Teacher Trap:
Always initiating the conversation.
Softening their truths so they wouldn’t hurt anyone’s ego.
Trying to guide their partner through intimacy while also trying to feel pleasure.
It doesn’t work.
And it shouldn’t have to.
This course is the handoff.
It says the things you’ve been trying to explain.
It helps your partner see what you’ve been holding.
And it invites both of you into a new rhythm—one built on reciprocity, capacity, and truth.
You don’t need another script.
You don’t need to fix your libido.
You don’t need to abandon yourself to stay connected.
You just need a new starting point.
I made this for you.
Because you deserve to be met.