Reset Your
rhythm
Stop managing him. Start being met.
EroticWhen she’s become the repair shop for your relationship, neither of you can remember the last time sex felt good, and resentment feels permanent…
Reset Your Erotic Rhythm is the couples reset that
gives her the space to drop the mother role,
gives him the skills to finally show up, and
gives you both the partnership you deserve.
Join the pilot program for just $5
(yes, seriously)
Reset Your Erotic Rhythm — Pilot (Basically Free)
Why it’s (basically) free: This is a pilot. Tuition is waived in exchange for your honest feedback so we can refine the curriculum. You get the full experience; we get real-world input.
Who it’s for: Couples—with dedicated time for each partner individually and time together as a couple.
Start date: Monday 6:30pm, October 27 (U.S. Central Time).
Length: 6 weeks.
Time commitment: 7 minutes daily (at-home micro-practice) + one 90-minute live call weekly.
Weeks 4–6 also include an optional 90-minute practice room mid-week.
Live Call Schedule (CT):
Weeks 1–3 (Individual Tracks):
Mondays 6:30 pm – Women’s Track
Wednesdays 6:30 pm – Partner Track (the other half of the couple)Weeks 4–6 (Couples):
Mondays 6:30 pm – Couples Session
Wednesdays 6:30 pm – Optional guided practice spaceStart Date: October 27th
What to expect: clear step-by-step practices, private individual guidance early on, then reunite as a couple with skills that make intimacy feel doable (and repeatable). Bring your partner, your curiosity, and 7 minutes a day.
Suggested Donation: $99 / $149 / $350 / $780
Required Donation: $5 (yes, seriously)
That $5 buy-in is deliberate—a tiny “skin-in-the-game” nudge that flips curiosity into commitment, cuts flake rates, and tells your nervous system, “this matters.”
Sign up hereAfter you donate, we’ll book a 15-minute fit call. Enrollment isn’t final until that call; if it’s not a match, your donation will be refunded.
Note: This pilot is closed to couples I’m currently seeing 1:1; existing 1:1 clients aren’t eligible for this cohort.
What you get (program at a glance)
Live coaching for ~6 weeks (one 75–90 min call per week) with replays.
Short at-home practices (2×/week, ~10–15 min each; total 20–30 min/week).
Partner-friendly structure: simple signals (“more / less / different,” Time-Outs), no performance pressure.
Safety that makes heat possible: consent cues, opt-out signals, clear referral ladder.
Lifetime access to the recorded RYER when it’s released (future retail $1000+)—included automatically.
Your daily rhythm (the core of the program)
7-minute audios delivered Monday–Friday, starting Monday, October 27.
Each audio includes one micro practice (doable the same day).
Listen solo or together—no perfection required.
Expect nervous-system downshifts, touch cues, and clear “more/less/different” language you can use immediately.
Live sessions (Central Time)
We meet for 6 weeks. Weeks 1–3 are separate tracks; Weeks 4–6 are as a couple.
Weeks 1–3 — Individual tracks
Mondays @ 6:30 PM CT — Women’s call
Oct 27, Nov 3, Nov 10
Wednesdays @ 6:30 PM CT — Men’s call (your partner’s slot)
Oct 29, Nov 5, Nov 12
Weeks 4–6 — Couples + optional practice space
Mondays @ 6:30 PM CT — Couples call
Nov 17, Nov 24, Dec 1
Wednesdays @ 6:30 PM CT — Optional practice space (lightly guided, drop-in)
Nov 19, Nov 26, Dec 3
Can’t make one? Replays are provided inside the portal within 24 hours.
You love him, but you feel like you’re dragging a corpse of a relationship across the finish line.
You’re sick of explaining the obvious. Sick of coaching him how to touch you. Sick of waiting for him to grow.
You keep waiting for the moment he’ll evolve/mature/participate, but it never comes (or at least it hasn’t yet, and you’re starting to lose hope).
The truth is…. You wanted a partner, but somehow you got a son.
And now you’re staring down the terrifying thought:
If something doesn’t change soon, I’ll spend the best years of my erotic life starving next to a man who doesn’t even know I’m hungry.
the problem isn’t your relationship.
It’s not just you. You’ve been shoved into an impossible bind…
He was never taught. You were taught to do too much. And now you’re both paying the price.
Women are told to never settle for anything less than the perfect, unicorn man,
…and men are told to numb out, stay stoic, never need help — and then blamed when they can’t meet you emotionally.
This cultural matrix makes real partnership impossible — the kind where he actually carries his share, you stop managing everything, and desire has a chance to breathe again.
Reset your erotic rhythm is here to end the rigged game…
He finally gets the initiation no one gave him — the skills to repair, to connect, to actually meet you.
You finally get the reset you’ve been starving for — dropping the manager role so you can feel like his partner, not his parent.
Brings you back to wanting each other again — in the partnership you thought you were getting when you said yes.
That’s exactly why I created RYER: as a love letter to both my past and future self, and as a roadmap for the brilliant women I work with every day—
devotees of love who refuse to give up, even in a culture that keeps trying to convince them men will never be capable of meeting them the way they deserve.
You’ve done the work.
It’s time to let yourself be met.
I was begging on the bathroom floor in barcelona…
We’d just had sex in a beautiful apartment in Barcelona…
we could hear the clink of mugs being delivered at cute coffee shop tables.
Everything should have felt dreamy.
But instead of floating in oxytocin,
I felt a wave of dread wash over me.
Not just in my mind—but in my body. My yoni.
I stared in the mirror,
trying to piece together what was happening.
I wasn’t mad.
I wasn’t ungrateful.
I was just starving.
My sexual self had been living off scraps.
Crumbs.
She needed a full meal.
She had been buried under the weight of trying to teach my partner how to be my lover and my equal, to teach him the relational and intimacy skills that no one had, and to become the man that would (someday) finally light my fire.
When my partner came into the room, I let it rip.
I said all the things I’d been holding back.
I cried.
I raged.
I begged without meaning to.
And when I finished, exhausted and curled on the bathroom floor, he said:
“This is really important to you.”
Yes.
“And I’m not getting it.”
No.
I was so confused why we were not getting closer. I had been putting in so much effort.
And then I remembered what I tell my clients all the time:
I cannot be both teacher and lover.
Not even I (and I teach intimacy skills PROFESSIONALLY) could overstep that sacred line between teacher and partner.
RYER: The Handbook of Love & Eroticism We Should Have Inherited
This is the handbook your lineage couldn’t pass down—because they never had the chance to create intimacy like this. RYER gives him the Human & Erotic 101 he was denied, gives you the unwinding you’ve been starving for, and gives both of you the reset into a kind of intimacy no generation before us has ever known.
✨ One course. Three portals:
Portal 1: For Her — The Unwinding
Lay down the weight of over-functioning. Unlock the buried part of you that is sensual, magnetic, playful, alive.Portal 2: For Him — Relational & Erotic Human Skills 101
Finally, he learns the skills of presence, repair, and erotic attunement—without you as his syllabus.Portal 3: For Both of You — The Ritual Reset
A repeatable practice that clears static, re-centers your bond, and keeps attraction alive for the long haul.
Click here for the complete syllabus — every juicy detail of what you’ll learn, practice, and embody. Keep scrolling for a quick summary!
Portal 1: for her - The Unwinding
If you’ve ever felt more like his mother, therapist, or teacher than his lover, you’re not imagining it. You’ve been carrying the emotional weight of the relationship — initiating every repair, managing the connection, holding the map.
The problem is, no one taught you how not to do this. So your body built a reflex: to over-function.
RYER (Reset Your Erotic Rhythm) begins by unwinding that reflex, in your nervous system and in your daily patterns. You’ll finally feel what it’s like to lay down the weight — and with it, unlock the part of you that feels sensual, magnetic, playful, alive.
✨ Because desire isn’t dead. It’s buried under the labor you were never meant to carry. ✨
Portal 2: For Him — Relational & Erotic Human Skills 101
Here’s the part no one tells you: he literally never learned the skills that make relationships work. Emotional literacy. Repair after conflict. Presence. Somatic awareness. They weren’t modeled at home, and they weren’t taught in school.
Which left you picking up the slack. That’s why you’ve been the coach, the explainer, the syllabus.
RYER changes that. It gives him the ground-floor skills of being an adult in love. No more waiting for you to script intimacy. No more blank stares when you say, “We need to talk.” He learns how to show up, so you don’t have to carry him anymore.
✨ Because attraction can’t thrive when you’re raising him. It can when he finally meets you.✨
Portal 3: For Both of You — The Ritual Reset
Even when you both learn the skills, life creeps in. Stress. Work. Old habits. And slowly, the old patterns sneak back.
That’s why RYER doesn’t just give you tools — it gives you a ritual reset you return to again and again. A repeatable practice that clears the static, re-centers the bond, and reopens the door to attraction.
It’s not another “sit down and talk” exercise. It’s a body-based, connection-deepening rhythm you share. A safety net for the relationship.
✨ Because the real secret isn’t fixing everything once. It’s knowing how to reset, again and again, for the rest of your lives.
Take a little peak inside his Human School 101 Erotic Curriculum:
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I’ll show him that “more” isn’t criticism — it’s the key to turning good sex into the kind that leaves you glowing for days.
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He’ll understand that foreplay isn’t a warm-up — it’s the main event, and how to make every touch count.
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He’ll learn how to give you closeness without pressure, so your desire comes back naturally.
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I’ll take the pressure off both of you by teaching him what really matters when bodies don’t follow the script.
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He’ll finally “speak” the turn-ons, touches, and rhythms that make you feel completely seen and desired.
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I’ll reframe masculinity for him so it actually turns you on instead of shutting you down.
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He’ll finally know how to reconnect after a fight so you feel safe letting him back in — emotionally and physically.
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I got you, girl.💞
Click here for the complete syllabus — every juicy detail of what you’ll both learn, practice, and embody.
i know the kind of partnership you’ve always wanted...
I know what your longing for and it isn't:
Endlessly sending them somatic sex ed//sacred self-help books HOPING they read that one part and actually learns how to touch you again
Begging for presence during sex when you know they don’t even know what that means
Flinching when they comes in for a hug because all of their touch feels like taking (and not in the good, ravish me, kind of way)
You're longing…
to learn from your partner.
For their growth to inspire yours.
To be able to not just relax during sex but feel like you're being transported to another realm.
To stop doing all of the emotional and erotic labor yourself.
You want your soul to be lit on fire with every touch.
This isn’t just about better sex.
It’s about resetting the rhythm so you actually want each other again — because you finally feel like partners,
not parent and child
not coach and teammate
not manager and managee (you get the idea 😉)
but lover and lover.
Imagine this…
You wake up feeling yourself.
Not bracing. Not tiptoeing around a partner’s fragility.
Just grounded, juicy, steady in your own rhythm.
You stretch—slowly—because your nervous system isn’t in flight mode anymore.
You remember last night’s touch: delicious, mutual, unforced.
You didn’t perform. You didn’t explain.
You just opened.
Because he finally knew how to meet you. And that’s what makes you want him again.
Be Lovers Again.This course does the teaching for you & creates a space for you to finally unwind.
Sign up:After you donate, we’ll book a 15-minute fit call. Enrollment isn’t final until that call; if it’s not a match, your donation will be refunded.
Note: This pilot is closed to couples I’m currently seeing 1:1; existing 1:1 clients aren’t eligible for this cohort.
Hey! I’m Nicole.
And I created this course because I kept hearing the same thing from women who had already done “the work”:
“I know my body.
I’ve reclaimed my desire.
I’ve told my partner what I want.
And I’m still not being met.”
Sound familiar?
I work at the intersection of sexological bodywork, nervous system healing, and somatic intimacy coaching. My whole approach is about coming back into relationship with your body—not as something to fix, perform, or optimize… but as something wise. Relational. Erotic. Alive.
But here's the thing no one tells you:
Even when you do the work, your relationship doesn’t always magically catch up.
That’s where this course comes in.
Reset Your Erotic Rhythm was born from the women I’ve worked with who felt exhausted—not because they didn’t want sex, but because they were doing all the emotional and erotic labor to make it happen.
They were stuck in what I call the Erotic Teacher Trap:
Always initiating the conversation.
Softening their truths so they wouldn’t hurt anyone’s ego.
Trying to guide their partner through intimacy while also trying to feel pleasure.
It doesn’t work.
And it shouldn’t have to.
This course is the handoff.
It says the things you’ve been trying to explain.
It helps your partner see what you’ve been holding.
And it invites both of you into a new rhythm—one built on reciprocity, capacity, and truth.
You don’t need another script.
You don’t need to fix your libido.
You don’t need to abandon yourself to stay connected.
You just need a new starting point.
I made this for you.
Because you deserve to be met.