Sex doesn’t feel good.Imagine it being the best part of your week.
The pain, the numbness, the want that went missing: none of it is random. Once you know what your body is responding to, sex gets to feel good again.
Show me howI’m Nicole, Certified Sexological Bodyworker®
5+ years of one-on-one work on desire, pain, orgasm and arousal
Hundreds of private clients
People come to me sure their body is broken. Then sex starts feeling good again.
From people I’ve worked with
Imagine sex that just feels good. Let’s start there.
On your free Root Cause Call, you get 30 minutes one-on-one with me. We find the exact reason sex hurts, feels numb or doesn’t interest you, and you leave with your first step toward sex that feels good.
Know the real reason sex hurts, feels numb or doesn’t interest you
More than “it’s stress” or “everything looks normal.” The actual reason, and why creams, pills and pushing through never reached it.
Stop wondering if something in you is broken
Your body is doing its job. There’s a reason this happens to healthy, loving people, and it has nothing to do with being broken.
Leave with your first step
The one change that will help most, and my honest take on the kind of support that fits you.
You set the depth. You leave knowing exactly why sex hasn’t felt good, and what to do first.
It’s me on the call, never an assistant, so I only open a handful each month.
Real talk
Every test says you’re fine. Sex still doesn’t feel good.
These are the exact things people tell me before sex starts feeling good again.
Here’s the thing: every one of these has a reason. When we find it, sex stops being something you brace for.
Numbing cream. Dilators. A little blue pill.
They got you through the night. None of them asked why.
Why the fixes keep wearing off
A symptom is your body saying no to something. Quiet the symptom, and the no is still there.
Pain, numbness, an erection that leaves, a want that went missing: each one is your body protecting you from something it hasn’t felt safe enough to meet.
It’s hard to enjoy sex in a body that’s standing guard.
The Root Cause Call
In 30 minutes, you’ll know why sex hasn’t felt good, and what to do first
Free, just you and me. You don’t have to keep figuring this out on your own.
You tell me what’s happening
When it started, what you’ve already tried, what you miss most. Say it however it comes out. I’ve heard it all 😉
We find the reason sex hasn’t felt good
More than “it’s stress” or “that’s normal.” The real reason, using the framework I created from years of client work. This is usually where everything clicks.
You leave with the one change that will help most
Your first step toward sex that feels good, plus my honest take on what support fits you, even if that’s someone other than me.
You set the depth.You decide how much you share.
It’s really me.No assistant, no sales rep.
Is the Root Cause Call right for you?
It’s for you if…
- Something about sex stopped working, and you want to know why.
- You’ve done the appointments, and you want someone who looks at the whole picture at once.
- You’re seeing a pelvic PT, a sex therapist or a doctor, and you want the body-based piece alongside them.
- You watched the Missing Desire Kit and thought, “okay, that’s me. Now what?”
And it works whether…
- It’s been this way your whole life, or it started last month.
- You’re single, partnered, or coming as a couple.
- You have a label from a doctor, or no words for it at all.
- You’ve never done anything like this before.
Who I am
I’m Nicole, and I help people enjoy sex in the body they have.
People find me after the doctor, the pelvic PT and the sex therapist. I’m the one who looks at all of it together: the symptom, the feelings around it, your relationship, and everything you were taught about sex growing up.
I was headed for a master’s in economics and lived by a paper planner, until my own body set off a bomb in my life. Finding my way back into my body, on the mountains of Spain, is how this work began.
Now I keep altars all over my house, hike the woods behind it, and read bodies the way a naturalist reads land. Nothing is wrong with the plant, so I look at what the plant is growing in.
You deserve sex you look forward to, in the body you have right now. That’s what we’re building toward from the first call.
- Certified Sexological Bodyworker®
- Creator of the Body Compass Method™
- 5+ years and hundreds of people in a thriving private practice
- Host of the Nature of Pleasure podcast
Questions people ask before they book
Is the Root Cause Call really free?
Yes, actually free! Thirty minutes with me, and you leave with something you can use that same week.
Do I need a label from a doctor first?
Not at all. Come with whatever words you have. “Something’s off and I can’t explain it” is a great place to start.
I’m already seeing a pelvic PT, a therapist or a doctor. Does this fit?
Yes. Many of the people I work with are. My work is the body-based piece, and it sits right alongside the care you already have.
Who will I actually be talking to?
Me, Nicole. Just you and a specialist with 5+ years in exactly this.
Does my partner need to join the call?
Nope. Come on your own or bring them along. Both work.
What if I feel nervous talking about sex?
Totally normal, and the nerves usually fade in the first few minutes. I talk about this all day, and you decide how much you share.
Where does the call happen?
Online, so you can be anywhere. My ongoing work is online worldwide and in person in Austin, Texas.
What happens after the call?
You’ll know what I’d do in your position. If my one-on-one program, Deep Body Sanctum, fits, I’ll tell you exactly what it involves and what it costs. If something else would serve you better, I’ll point you there.
You want sex to feel good. Let’s find what’s in the way.
Thirty minutes, free, one-on-one with me. Pick a time below. I can’t wait to meet you!
